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Subject: Re: Favortism?

Forum: Favortism?
Hi Gina,

The only time I experience favoritism in school was when I actually deserved the attention. The years or classes that I worked very, very hard in or I was very engaged in were the classes that I was a favorite.

Favoritism is very difficult to eliminate, it is a lot of human nature and biases to be aware of.

In the workplace, having more than one person with decision making power helps reduce favoritism for promotions and such. In my own experience, if I know I am liked a lot, whether more than others or the same as others (which usually I am liked because I am very kind and level-headed in a workplace), I will drop a good word for those who I see also deserve good praise.

At my internship, my project partner and I clearly saw one of the employees stood out from the rest because she was dedicated, motivated, bright, kind, caring, and always on-point at work. We both dropped a good word for her to management because it was clear she excelled in effort and skill.



Subject: Re: What setting is your preferred workplace?

Forum: What setting is your preferred workplace?
Hi Tera,

I am like Erin and I like being able to go all over and also have an office as a home base. I love going to where the magic is happening. I think the proper term is “being onsite”, meaning where everything is occurring and not in a stuffy office.

I love being outside in warm, sunny weather and socializing with other people. I do not want to be isolated. I want to be free while working and making a lot of money!



Subject: Re: Your favorite type of workplace?

Forum: Your favorite type of workplace?
Hi Tera,

Good luck on your new job! I think that being in a different environment that you are used to can help you expand and learn how to work with/socialize with new people.

My ideal workplace would be a place with minimal dress codes. I would want a place that requires business casual dress and also does not regulate what that means to people Also, I would love to be able to have informal conversations, regardless of the formality of the environment itself. I love having fun, enjoying conversation, and free time at least once or twice in the day to spice up my day. Although I enjoy getting to the point, I also enjoy having variety and excitement throughout my day.



Subject: Re: Toxic Relationships

Forum: Toxic Relationships
Hi Morgan,

I see why you are frustrated and totally get why you are distraught. I agree with @LauraD86 that you can always learn from every situation, even if it is a sucky one. Maybe it is time to move on and that might also open up conversation for why you were not considered for the position. I wish you the best.

As for what @Erin said, those kinds of positions seem very toxic because they are using young women to make money. Also, it is not the type of job that should require people to post on social media if they do not want to. I hope that Erin is able to leave that place.

I am a very agreeable person and I get work anxiety, so when I have conflict with coworkers, it is very challenging for me because I am not good at asserting myself when I am uncomfortable. The best thing to do in those types of situations is use methods to break down the situation and emotionally/mentally remove yourself from it so that you can objectively see what is going on and what you can do about it from where you are at now (you can't change the past).



Subject: Re: Tattoos-What do you think of them?

Forum: Tattoos-What do you think of them?
Hi Erin,

I enjoy looking at most tattoos because I love art. However, I would not get any of my own. I love my body without any permanent art on it. I love piercings because I love shiny jewelry and it better fits my personality.

As for the workplace, as long as they are not on the face, ears, or sides/front of the neck, I think they are fine. Also, as long as there are no bad words, phrases, or universally offensive symbols.



Subject: Bra or No Bra?

Forum: Bra or No Bra?
For all to answer:

What do you think about bras in the workplace? Should underwire bras be required in the workplace? Is "it looks better" or "it keeps anything from showing" a good justification to require people with boobs to wear a bra to work each day?


Most of the time, I prefer to wear a sports bra or bralette because they are way more comfortable. I do not think a workplace should regulate peoples' dress as much as to say what type of underwear they should wear. It is important that people are comfortable and distraction free. If I am uncomfortable in my clothes, that is a distraction from my actual job.

This debate reminds me of being in school and hearing about students who were protesting about being sent home because of bra straps showing. I think that it is ridiculous to send a young woman home because of something silly like that and it is creepy to even sexualize a young woman like that enough that a superior takes her away from her education to correct a behavior that does not need attention in the first place.


Thanks for reading!


Subject: Re: Earning Respect

Forum: Earning Respect

Hi Gabriella,

What kind of designers do you work with? That sounds like such a great job! :D

Of course, minus this situation you are dealing with. I totally understand where you are coming from and know that you have the ability and strength to deal with this, or you would not be in this situation. This is how I see it:

Where there is a breakdown, there is a breakthrough.

You are experiencing a situation by these designers that is putting you in a situation where you are being challenged. The way you have lived life up to this point has been working for the level of life you have been living up until now. However, now life is asking you to step up out of what you are used to in order to gain the respect of these feisty individuals. I hope this makes sense.

To me the best thing you can do is like what everyone else is saying. I think you should continue to be unapologetically yourself and bring your best effort 150% each day. Consistency is key and it is also what gains peoples' respect in the long run. That is my opinion.

Best of luck you you Gabriella!



Subject: Re: Minorities in your workplace

Forum: Minorities in your workplace
Hi bluebella,

I do not currently work at a job right now, but my last job as a front desk person at a massage place, we had some diversity.

We had a good amount of diversity at both the clinics our boss owns. The massage therapist at my clinic were all white except for one therapist. Our front desk team had a few people of color.

At the other clinic, the front desk staff or mostly Hispanic/Latino and probably 30% of the therapist were people color.

Of course, boss and our management were white, as well as the neighborhoods. We were in white neighborhoods, so it was all to be expected. Although would be great to see more people color in positions of power and authority regardless.



Subject: Re: When it comes to harassment, what is your role?

Forum: When it comes to harassment, what is your role?
Hi bruce Watson,

I do not believe we are sensitive enough. I also do not believe that real progress has been made until in peoples' everyday lives in the workplace are safe from sexual harassment, comments, and assault. Until that woman in the office isn't coerced by her boss or mentor to sleep with him for a raise, our workplace is not a safe place. Until that waitress/waiter's butt isn't touched by customers and the manager tells them to brush it off, our employees aren't safe. When we finally stop sending young adolescent girls home because their bra straps showing (distracting boys), our children will learn that their bodies are more important than their education.

With all this being said, everyone deserves humanity and respect. the feeling of violation and being stripped of one's safety is a very scary experience. Everyone deserves to feel safe when going out and about. People also deserve to be heard when a violation of their bodily autonomy occurs. It is a very dishonoring experience to be harassed and it is honestly a very scary experience that no one should have to go through.

The best thing I can do is continue to create conversation regarding these issues and donate money to trusted organizations that support this cause. Also, to teach my children respect, boundaries, listening, and love.



Subject: Re: Paid Time Off to protest?

Forum: Paid Time Off to protest?
Relating to the question last week, the nature of work is changing. Our need for manual labor is decreasing and may be nonexistent by 2050, because of increasing robots in the workforce. Personally, I do not see a predominantly negative impact with giving more employees more time off because our society is so work driven. It is not something I would personally do.
America, as a nation, is very high conscientiousness, meaning we like boundaries and tradition (versus high in openness means we like new ideas and change). What this means is that as a society, we like to distinguish our personal and work lives. We distinguish church from state. We distinguish religion/spirituality from science/academia. One reason why this whole PTO situation is creating unrest (chaos to conscientious people) is because we are bring light to things that are personal to us into the workplace. This is a no for many professionals because the order/peace that is in the workplace is being rattled with.
For example, if a corporate/CEO believes X and the employees believe Y, chaos is introduced to the workplace. Often, everyone in the company want to follow the guiding principles the company stands for, they just different way to achieve it. When there is a conflict between different ways to achieve it and employees have a voice to change both the company and the world, the CEO's can't achieve the guiding principle as efficiently as they would like.
Freedom of speech is apart of the fundamentals of America. There is a difference betwwen supporting PTO as a whole, or PTO against a CEO's beliefs. If PTO becomes a regular benefit in an employee's job description, companies will have to support it like they do for paid time off or maternity/paternity leave. If a CEO is against PTO becasue they know their employees would rally against them and their personal beliefs, then that would grate against the concept of free speech.
All in all, PTO would not a bad if it becomes legalized. The merging of work and personal life is what may bother people the most. I think that the chaos it would create in our society would be helpful because it would get more people to become more aware of the current social changes happening because it would directly affect them.