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Subject: Re: When it comes to harassment, what is your role?

Forum: When it comes to harassment, what is your role?
Hi bruce Watson,

I do not believe we are sensitive enough. I also do not believe that real progress has been made until in peoples' everyday lives in the workplace are safe from sexual harassment, comments, and assault. Until that woman in the office isn't coerced by her boss or mentor to sleep with him for a raise, our workplace is not a safe place. Until that waitress/waiter's butt isn't touched by customers and the manager tells them to brush it off, our employees aren't safe. When we finally stop sending young adolescent girls home because their bra straps showing (distracting boys), our children will learn that their bodies are more important than their education.

With all this being said, everyone deserves humanity and respect. the feeling of violation and being stripped of one's safety is a very scary experience. Everyone deserves to feel safe when going out and about. People also deserve to be heard when a violation of their bodily autonomy occurs. It is a very dishonoring experience to be harassed and it is honestly a very scary experience that no one should have to go through.

The best thing I can do is continue to create conversation regarding these issues and donate money to trusted organizations that support this cause. Also, to teach my children respect, boundaries, listening, and love.



Subject: Re: How much does age matter?

Forum: How much does age matter?

This is a great topic that I think is critical to discuss at our age, when age gaps make a more significant difference than when we are older. Age is somewhat irrelevant to someone's intelligence. Of course, there are different kinds of intelligence (common sense and academia are a few examples of different ways to be smart), and a person can be exceptionally well rounded in one aspect while lacking in another. Thus, a number doesn't age people, maturity does.

I've interacted with some incredible young people with remarkable interpersonal skills, as well as older people who leave much left to be desired in the realm of critical thinking skills. I really like how you mentioned, "Age doesn't demand respect, your person demands respect."

Along with the above, I've dated older people and also have been in age gap relationship. I've found that I really enjoy short-term dating older people because I grow from their wisdom and learn from their mistakes. In regards to long-term dating, I am a little cautious because more of than not, our relationship needs and goals are different.

All in all, age is a natural process that we apply meaning to (i.e. the older you are, the more respect you are entitled to). In reality (at least for me), someone's value is in their intellect and spirit, not in how gray their hair is.

Thanks for reading,

~ Song ~