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Subject: Re: Should parents be able to choose sex of baby?

Forum: Should parents be able to choose sex of baby?
Howdy sunnysmiles,

I would say there is nothing ethically wrong with choosing the sex of our babies. However, this can be a very slippery slope. With society having specific views of someone based on their sex alone, we can very easily run into a disparity between sexes. I think if something like this was to be implemented, people should have to go on waiting list in-order to children if their is a disparity in sexes.

Thanks for Reading,

Tera

Subject: Re: Teacher Student Sex Scandals and Double Standards

Forum: Teacher Student Sex Scandals and Double Standards
Howdy Andy Nash,

At my past high school there were 2 sex scandals. One was with a female guidance counselor and the other with a male teacher. The male teacher was accused multiple times, by multiple students, however was never found guilty. There was also very little media attention put onto this teacher. The female guidance counselor on the other end was given a tremendous amount of media attention before being found guilty and she was later found guilty.

For the most part, I don't think anyone should live in fear for the sons or daughters. Sexual assault cases have actually went down in the past 20 years (https://www.rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem). I think the media is just trying to push the stories that will get the most eyes. Society definitely sees males less impacted by sexual assaults, however I don't think many people view them as not impacted at all. Pretty much everyone agrees that sexual assault is bad for any child impacted though.

Thanks for Reading,

Tera

Subject: Re: You have to wait _______ months before dating.

Forum: You have to wait _______ months before dating.
Howdy courtcong,

While every relationship is different, I do think their should be minimum guidelines to be followed. The reason for this is that it is very easy to be swept away by infatuation and you really want to get to know someone before committing.

One month before dating. Long enough to become friends and get to know someone before a relationship.

How Many Dates before Sex is dependent on the relationship. I think sex is an amazing way to connect with someone and personally I don't put a huge amount of value on it.

Engagement after a year.

Marriage after 2 years.

Thanks for reading!

~Tera~

Subject: Re: Do you have sex when you're not in the mood?

Forum: Do you have sex when you're not in the mood?
Howdy Tubamaster,

I am not currently seeing anyone, but I have had this situation happen before. I simply can't have sex if I am not in the mood, it just isn't going to happen. I can get the other person off for sure, as long as nothing is done to me. I think it is important to me to be a giver. So I am almost always up to give, just not always receive.

Thanks for reading!

~Tera~

Subject: Re: Will virtual reality put sex workers out of work?

Forum: Will virtual reality put sex workers out of work?
Howdy bluesapphire7,

I do not think that virtual reality will put sex workers out of work. I think it will require a very good virtual reality in-order for anything like that to happen. Unless you can literally make someone feel as if they are having sex with another person and all the different components that go along with it, sex workers will not be going anywhere. I do think that virtual reality sex is on the rise though. Virtual reality sex will probably be putting traditional pornography out of business!

Thanks for reading!

~Tera~

Subject: Re: Sex, Gender Identity & Gender

Forum: Sex, Gender Identity & Gender
I would like to reply specifically to Annabrigitte since I believe my previous reply responds to everyone else.

@Annabrigitte - I am transgender and majority of my college studies have been on sex / gender. I was actually originally going to become a gender / sex therapist. I have taken a ton of courses in the human anatomy and on gender.

For 98.3% of the population biological sex is male or female, .5% is intersex (still XX or XY chromosomes just ambiguous genitalia), 1.2% chromosomal disorders which often results in significantly lower quality of life. So it is incredibly common to be born biologically male or female, it is not an invention / over-simplification it is just a reality. What is uncommon is being born intersex and having a chromosomal disorder, it isn't not normal, it isn't a bad thing, it is just uncommon. Therefore, trying to include so many outliers becomes harder to digest and understand since the range is so gigantic.

Gender Identity has everything to do with your mind. Your brain actually starts to develop before external genitalia ever starts to form in the womb. A persons mind can be a wide variety of different gender identities, all determined by a multitude of different factors. The reason I said other, is cause it is a gigantic spectrum and majority of people identify as male, man and female, woman, just a reality of the world we live in. The actual amount of Queer individuals is something incredibly hard to know since in most of the world oppression is still very real.

Now as for your gender identity = gender, lets just say that your definition of gender identity and gender must be wildly different than my own. When I say gender, I am speaking of the personality traits and characteristics that a person has which fall under masculinity, femininity or androgynous. When I say gender identity, I am saying regardless of a person's personality traits and characteristics this is what an individual's socially identifies as to society. To say that Gender identity = gender is to say that a masculine person is just masculine. It denies the individual the ability to be a masculine person who socially identifies as a woman. Taking away labels and identifying markers can be just as damaging as assigning them. There is what I believe a healthy mix.

Thanks for reading, if you wish to further this conversation add me on facebook!

~Tera~

Subject: Re: Sex, Gender Identity & Gender

Forum: Sex, Gender Identity & Gender
Howdy Everyone,

Thank you all for your wonderful replies! It was awesome seeing what everyone perceived their gender as and what their actually gender personality traits were! As we see is that a lot of us actually have very equal levels of masculine and feminine gender personality traits, yet perceive ourselves as having the gender marked by our biological sex or gender identity.

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As for me (these were my results in the past not current).

Biological Sex - Male
Gender Identity - Androgynous Transwoman
Perceived Gender - Feminine

Gender - Androgynous

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Now the whole reason for this post was to identify what we believe our gender to be and what we actually are. This test was created originally by Sandra Bem an amazing woman who believed that gender personality traits were not on a one dimensional masculine or feminine plane, but on two separate dimensions. A person can be both masculine and feminine. A person who has a very equal level of masculine and feminine personality traits are androgynous. Masculine does not mean man and feminine does not mean woman, it is an array of personality traits that fall under these categories. If you are dominant, then that falls under masculine. The truth is there is almost an even break-down of masculine, androgynous, feminine personality traits between biological men and woman. For example, men 33% masculine, 33% androgynous, 33% feminine. This was discovered by Sandra Bem and my own individual study also showed the same result among 30 people. This test was to show everyone how society influences our perceptions of ourselves and enlighten us to who we are when breaking down our own individual personality traits.

Thanks for reading!

~Tera~

Subject: Sex, Gender Identity & Gender

Forum: Sex, Gender Identity & Gender
Howdy Everyone,

What is your:
Biological Sex - (Male, Female)
Gender Identity - (Man, Woman, Other)
Perceived Gender - (Masculine, Feminine, Androgynous)

After listing these do this test to figure out your actual gender: http://www.afifthofnothing.com/gendertest.html

What is your:
Gender - (Masculine, Feminine, Androgynous)

Was your perceived gender different than your actual gender? Why do you think it is or isn't? Do you feel like society governs our gender or that our nature governs our gender? Should someone's gender be held higher than someone's biological sex or gender identity?

I don't want to influence anyone's answer and will not give the results of my previous research project on this topic. This test is to figure out if our perceptions of our gender is our actual gender personality traits. I will do a follow-up post tomorrow with the results of my past research project if this post gains traction!

Can't wait to hear what you all are!

Thanks for reading!

~Tera~

Subject: Re: How comfortable are you to talk about SEX?

Forum: How comfortable are you to talk about SEX?
Howdy, NaMo!

I am studying to become a Gender - SEX Therapist so I would hope that I am comfortable talking about sex. It doesn't really matter with whom. I think it only becomes a weird subject when the other individual makes it weird. I normally never make the sex topic weird though. I could talk about it in class (I do that right now cause I am studying sex). I talk about sex with my friends on a constant basis, there are just so many interesting things that people don't know about! An I would hope that everyone would be comfortable talking about sex with their partner even though I know that isn't always the case without a lot of couples.

Thanks for reading!

~Tera~

Subject: You Are A... WHAT!?

Forum: You Are A... WHAT!?
Howdy, Everyone!

Imagine you are dating someone and find her (or him) very attractive, both as a person and sexually. This person tells you she (or he) is transgender and used to be the other sex. How do you think you might react? At what point in a relationship would you like to find out? If the person had told you before the first date, do you think it would have changed the likelihood that you would have gone out together?

I am currently taking a course called "Foundations of Sexual Behavior". Our most recent discussion posting was the question above. I thought it was a funny question cause I am also transgender, so it was weird answering a question that totally wasn't aimed at me.

Anyways, I thought you all might enjoy this topic! Try to be as open as possible and remember there is no right way to answer. Just be honest!

Can't wait to hear your replies!

~Tera~