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    How do you handle grief?

    created by Alexagg 79 days 12 hours 52 minutes ago

    Category: World

    How do you handle grief?

    Hello everyone! My question today is how do you handle grief? What are some ways that you cope and get through hard times?

    My grandfather passed away last week, and I went to his funeral last weekend and saw how people handle grief differently. My grandmother looked so strong, and seemed to be handling grief well with loved ones surrounding her. I know some people would rather handle grief alone, and others may just want a friend around. I am definitely someone who needs a couple of people around me! Something as simple as putting your arm around me or asking if there is anything they could do for me helped a lot! How about you?

    Re: How do you handle grief?

    Hey there,

    It is crazy how people handle grief differently. I am usually one to release a lot of tears and stay around family and friends hat offer support and lend some kind words. Honestly the only way to get through something is over a long span of time, but I don’t think that there is solely one way to grieve. It’s crazy that usually the ones hat handle it strongly in the public eye are usually the closest to the person that passed away , but I’m sure they handle their emotions privately. Sorry for your loss! Many prayers to you and your family.

    -Jess

    Re: How do you handle grief?

    Hey Alexaggs

    I'm sorry to hear about your loss... I hope you and your family are doing well.

    When grief happens I usually try to remind myself that this is the way the world works. I remind myself that this is how God meant life for us to be and that I should make the best out of my life before my time comes too. I try to take it from a religious standpoint so that my faith would restrengthen.

    Anyways hope you feel better.

    Hope you have a good weekend

    Re: How do you handle grief?

    Good morning, Alexagg,

    I am really very sorry to hear about your Grandfather. I know how special grandparents can be in our lives. I am glad to hear that you had some friends who could be there for you to help you during your sad and difficult time. I am sure your Grandmother, even though she was strong at the funeral, will be very lonely and could also use a lot of family around her over the next several weeks to help her cope, not to mention handle all the legal matters that come when someone passes away.

    When my grandpa passed (he was only 62), it was really hard. We were very close. He was the one how taught me how to ride a bike and learn to swim. He watched me before and after school for years as well when I was little. I just wanted to be left alone when he passed away. I was really angry with the world and at the time didn't really understand death or how to cope and even grieve. A few years later my great grandma passed away (my grandpa's mom). I was able to understand things a bit better, and like you, I needed to have some close friends around. They were my rock and helped me get through the loss. My family was quite close.

    Thanks for sharing your grief with us. Again, I am very sorry for your loss. You have my deepest sympathy and condolences.


    Jon

    P.S. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on my post the other day about same sex/different sex friendships. I appreciate your candor and viewpoint.

    Re: How do you handle grief?

    Hello, Alex,

    I understand this is a hard topic to discuss.
    My condolences go out to you and your family.
    When someone dear to me passes away, I always think of this poem...
    "Just close your eyes and you will see, all the memories that you have of me
    Just sit and relax and you will find, I'm really still there inside your mind?
    Don't cry for me now I'm gone, for I am in the land of song
    There is no pain, there is no fear, so dry away that silent tear
    Don't think of me in the dark and cold, for here I am, no longer old
    I'm in that place that's filled with love
    Known to you all as "up above." "
    Both my grandparents on my father's side passed away during the same year. My grandpa died tragically young, of heart disease. My grandma died of lung cancer. It was tough, for a while, particularly with all the legal matters we had to deal with. But, we are spending more time with our cousins and our extended family more than ever. Loss tears individuals apart internally, but it can bring families together. To cope with grief, I surround myself with family, those with whom I can share a well-needed cry.
    Again, I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I sincerely hope you feel better.
    -Chloe