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    Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

    created by jwade13 34 days 7 hours 42 minutes ago

    Category: World

    Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

    Hey CNet,

    Do you believe the statement : "Once a cheater, Always a Cheater?"

    I personally do. I think if someone can do it once, they can do it again and it is very hard to change habits sometimes. As someone who has been cheated on, I would never trust that person again and it's hard not to assume that they wouldn't do it again.

    Your thoughts? Do you think it's possible to trust a cheater again?

    -Jess

    Re: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

    I 100% agree with that statement. Even if it doesn't happen again (that you know of), I would always wonder if they just learned how they got caught in the first place and learned how to better cover their tracks. Sure, sometimes someone will forgive the other for cheating, and while I haven't had a boyfriend yet, I don't think I'd be able to forgive him, let alone trust him. I'd always wonder if he'd do it again, or if he thinks that because I forgave him/regained his trust, he can do it again and I'll forgive him. That's not a healthy relationship at all. If I'm cheated on, I'm not going to start destroying all of his things. I'll just call him out on it, break it off, and we'll go our separate ways, because he just proved to me that one, he doesn't truly care about me enough to be faithful, and two, he's not the kind of guy I want to be with.

    Re: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

    Hi Jess,
    I don’t think this is a hard and fast statement. If you have been with someone for years and they make one mistake. Does all those years just get erased because of one mistake. I think it would be hard to earn back that trust but we also have to learn how to forgive. No repeat mistakes allowed though.

    That being said there are some people that repeatedly cheat and those are the ones that will always be cheaters. My brother just cheated on his long term live with girlfriend. She has now moved back home and he is with the new girl. I don’t understand how she can be with him, knowing he cheated on his last girlfriend. Hello!?!?!? Odds are he is going to cheat on you too. It just baffles my mind that people will knowingly enter a relationship with a cheater. I love my brother but have lost all respect for him and how he treats women.

    Mahalo,
    dgriffay

    Re: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

    Hi Jess,
    I agree with you. Once they cheat they are capable of cheating again. I just got out of a two year relationship where there was always infidelity, and he would tell me that he was going to change and nothing every changed. He would make me feel great for a couple weeks and then he would be right back to it. I learned that if someone cant love you the way that you are supposed to you dont need them. My mother always taught me I can do bad by myself.

    Re: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

    Hey Jess,

    I think the statement is true in 95% of situations and maybe even higher than that. I just feel there are some people who can truly change but it is definitely rare. I do know some that had cheating in the relationship but things are good now. For a while there was trust issues though and I'm sure a part of them always might be afraid.

    I have been cheated on and I just don't see why people would do it. Why not just leave if you aren't happy with that person? It feels horrible and I even know people who cheat that have been cheated on yet still do it. It just doesn't make any sense to me.

    -Raeanna