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    Do you have hard time saying NO to people?

    created by NjBr 285 days 18 hours 20 minutes ago

    Category: World

    Do you have hard time saying NO to people?

    Hello everyone! Congrats to all of the winners this week and thank you to everyone who voted for me❤️

    Do you have hard time saying no to people?
    Do you have that guilty feeling?
    What is a nice way to tell someone no without hurting their feelings?
    Have you ever said yes to something but really wanted to say No?


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    Yes, I do have a hard time saying No to people. I aways want to please people and make them happy. I really need to learn how to say No sometimes. People tend to take advantage of you if they know you are always going to give in to what they want.

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    Hey NjBr!

    Congratulations on winning this week! I am glad you did :)

    I have a very hard time saying no to people. I am a people pleaser by nature. If someone has the guts to ask me for something, I will usually always find a way to fulfill their request.

    I am happy to do it! I love to make people happy and help them out when I can. However, the moment I feel underappreciated, I stop. When my kindness becomes expected it is no longer given.

    I will happily give everything to the people that appreciate me. I have too much pride, so I will not stand for disrespect. However, I do forgive easily.

    Thanks for the interesting form!


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    Hey NjBr!

    I have the hardest time saying "no" to people! I have always been a people pleaser. It's something I've been working on for the past few years because it's not feasible to please everyone and it usually leaves me feeling exhausted and emotionally drained. I've definitely gotten better at it, but it still pains me to do haha.



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    What's up NjBr!

    It depends on the situation. If it's telling a kid "no you can't have this because you're not old enough" situation, then I don't mind. But if it's someone I can empathize with... I have a really hard time saying no. I try to list option as an alternative after I tell someone no so they don't really have time to think about what I say.

    - Kyle

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    Hey NjBr!

    Personally I have to tell myself that it's okay to turn down an offer, or to say NO to things if I cannot do it, or sometimes to tell my friend that I don't agree with him on certain topic.

    I used to agree to help or to attend numerous events. But at the end of the week I feel so exhausted and shattered. I learned the hard way that it's important to say NO. It's vital for our own mental health. Taking time to rest and not packing ourselves with one appointment after another is not at all fruitful.

    This is important to practice whilst disagreeing on opinions of our friends. Atimes because they are our friends we seem obliged to agree and say YES to all that they propose. But again this is not a healthy way of friendship or not a healthy way of developing our own say and opinion on matters.

    The reason why I used to agree with people is because I felt bad saying NO to people. Somehow I internalized the thought that by saying YES to people I can come across as a nice person. But truly it's not at a healthy balanced way of doing things. By saying YES to everything will only leave us draining. I learned that hard way when I was almost hit by a burn out few years ago.

    I have learned it's healthy to say NO to certain invitations and it's okay to DISAGREE with my dear friend on certain matters.

    Hope you have a great night!

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    I think it depends on the person for me. If they're asking for something from me with pure and good intentions then I would probably feel bad if I had to say no. But if they're trying to do something that clearly is bad intention then I wouldn't be afraid to stand up for myself and say no. I used to be too much of a people pleaser and I feel like that got me nowhere and there's no point to pleasing just everybody, maybe just a couple of people who matter to you lol. But there's no point to try to please everybody because it's just not possible, and it takes too much out of you anyway and definitely not worth it. So I guess, just do what you feel is right, and don't be afraid to stand up for what you want and your own logic and feelings.

    Thanks for sharing! Have a good one!

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    Yeah, that's why my screen name is "the Enabler" because I can't seem to say no It's a horrible thing when you like assisting people. Problem is they take advantage of you.

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    All the time! And yes I always get a little guilty feeling for saying no. I don't like this feeling and try to own my decisions when I notice it.

    What's been really unhealthy for me is my job, where we say yes, thank you and sorry hundreds of times in a shift.

    Someone will come to me and ask for napkins or water and after I give them, I will tell them "Thank you" for no reason. I don't like these words becoming meaningless and expected. It makes me feel fake and robotic!

    I'm trying to be less apologetic for things out of my control, or that I'm really just not sorry for.


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    Hey, I would say sometimes if it’s my family and I haven’t seen them in a while but most of the time I usually say no but always offer an alternative for people who are close to me. For example, if I knew I needed to stay home and do homework or just stay home and a friend asked me to go somewhere, I would say I can’t but offer hanging out another day.

    Have a great day,


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    I have a really hard time saying no, mostly because I don't want them to be at an inconvenience-- even if I am put in an inconvenience because of the favor. I think family and friends expect me to do favors for them simply because we are close, and favors are part of what friends are for. And I try to not ask too many favors to other people to make knowing me be simple. But just typing the forum out I realize I try too hard to gain approval.

    I always like to pass good favors on to other people to brighten their day in general, but sometimes I feel as though people sometimes ask too much. I guess I can start getting in the habit of politely saying no once in a while!

    Thank you!


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    I have the worst time saying NO to people. I suffer from anxiety so anytime I'm being asked a question I feel like the yes women. I hate/ fear letting people down especially my coworkers. I always get an uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach, because I know I should be saying no but I fear letting anyone down. I have tried different ways but I always end up changing my answer an hour later usually work related.

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    Hey NjBr! I have the hardest time saying no to people. I always have a fear that they'll be upset with me and I always have that feeling of guilt! Honestly, it's extremely frustrating sometimes not being able to say no. There are some nights when I'm so exhausted or there are things I get asked to do, that I just don't want to but I haven't learned how to say no yet! I've always tried my best to say no in the best way possible and I always apologize a million times if I do end up saying no and then I just deal with the guilt. I have said yes to many things that I didn't want to! Hopefully I'll learn how to say no eventually!


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    No, I do not have a hard time saying no to people personally. I am the type of person who gives what I get. So if I don't think that person will return the favor or will take advantage of the situation I will say it politely and keep it moving. I do this because I try to set terms of how I do things so that people do not approach me to only benefit themselves. With that being said I do whatever I can for my actually friends and get the same energy in return.