Forum Navigator

    Popular Tags

    advice age change children cnet college collegenet culture dating death eball education family food friends fun future ginger god good happiness health job jobs kids love marriage mljay money parents people politics pulsar raelo relationship relationships religion scholarship school sex sleep society thecrimsonactuary think time tobias travel women work world

    Is it love?

    created by Miquela101 663 days 7 hours 37 minutes ago

    Category: World

    Is it love?

    There are a lot of adults that say "teenagers don't know what love is, they're not old enough." I've seen couples that have been together for like 3-4 years in high school, some even throughout middle school. Are teenagers too young to love or is there no age limit? Do you guys think teens really know what love is?

    Re: Is it love?

    Hi there!

    I've been told all my life that I'm too young to know what love is. Personally, I don't think teenagers are too young to love at all, we've already felt love for our family, our friends, we do know what love is like. As for romantic love, who's to claim what we feel is or isn't real. No one should be able to tell you that. Maybe it is just a crush, maybe we've met someone who will be a part of our life for a very long time, no one can ever know that.

    I think we do know what the feeling of "love" is, the issue is that we don't know how to deal with it or to properly judge if the relationship is a healthy one or not, but that is what youth is for. We're learning every day, finding out what we need and what we desire in a partner. So what if maybe it's not a permanent relationship? If you're smiling, if you care deeply about a person, if you feel butterflies when you're near them, if you enjoy your time with them. In that moment, you might love them, only the person experiencing it can be the judge of it.

    - Kayla

    Re: Is it love?

    Hello!

    I have been in this situation practically all my high school life. I fell in love with my soon-to-be husband when I was 16 and we have been dating for about 6 years. I have been told MANY times that I am too young to understand what love was/is. I of course ignored it growing up because I knew that i was a mature enough to handle a relationship and also to love someone else.

    I thought that it would not be a problem once I got to college. Even when I was in college it was a problem. My fiancé proposed my sophomore year of college and we were called, crazy, stupid, naive, and hasty. While some of it might be true, we still didn't believe that being young in age didn't mean that we lacked the capacity to have a true and genuine love for one another. Here I am now, 22, and I still get that I "am too young to understand".

    I think that the maturity that someone has depends if they are really ready to handle loving someone else rather than themselves. Still, to judge someone and their relationship that you dont know anything bout I think is quite silly.

    -Mo

    Re: Is it love?

    Hi Miquela,
    I would argue that teenagers have a decent idea of what love is, however the ability to know themselves and what they want for their future is lacking, due to not having experience.

    The person that you are in your teens, with the understanding of the world you have, as a teen is limited. As a result, your choices and desires are based on only part of the picture. Knowing who you are, what you're good at, what you want, how you want things to happen and what you can and cannot put up with are all valuable insights that only come about with years of experience. Also, the person you are as a teenager, is typically not the person you will be or become as an adult. As a result the person that is perfect for you as a teen, is rarely the person that's perfect for you as a fully formed adult. Knowing what I know now about myself...I would hate to have become stuck with the women I was attracted to in my teens. There simply wasn't enough understanding on my part about myself and what's possible to fully grasp what makes the most sense for me in the long run.

    Having said that, I also realize that I'm a late bloomer and getting married at 36 is a great example of that type of behavior. Not everyone takes that long to sort themselves out. But, I do think I have a better idea of who I am, what I want and who I'm good with and therefore, have a better chance at making this marriage work, then if I were to have gotten married or stayed with the love of my life from back in the day.

    Mike.

    Re: Is it love?

    Hello!

    I do think teenagers can be in love. I don't think they will know it until later in life or until they have been together for a long time, but I definitely think teenagers can be in love. I do think teenagers mistake love a lot. It is a rough period in everyone's life and I think a lot of teens do mistake someone being there for them and having a crush on them for love. I think as a teenager, you don't have enough life experience to even understand whether you love a person or not. The situations you are both put in in high school are completely different than college or real life.

    I met my boyfriend of almost 4 years my junior year of high school. I knew from the moment I saw him that he was special. I made the first move which was crazy for me. I knew I loved him after a month of dating him. I felt like it must have been love at first sight. However, I definitely did not really know how much I loved him until we went through every milestone together. Prom, graduation, college, our first apartment, etc. He has always been there for me the way I need him. So, it was love! And really, I am still a teenager because I am 19 and I know for sure that I love him.

    -Jessica