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    Women who propose to men

    created by Sirena15 1104 days 19 hours 43 minutes ago

    Category: Religion

    Women who propose to men

    Top of the morning Cnet.

    I hope everyone is having a great week so far, Happy Hump Day.

    I don't personally know any lady who has proposed to a man, do you?
    Do you think its "wrong", why?
    If you are a woman, would you do it?
    If you are a man, would you be creeped out if your girl proposed to you?
    Where do we get our idea of a "proper" proposal?

    Let me know below.

    Xx

    Re: Women who propose to men

    Hi Sirena!

    I personally have never knew a woman who has proposed to a man. I don't think it's wrong, but I do think it is a little weird. However, I don't see it as a problem. If you are a woman and you want to propose to your bf then by all means go ahead. I would hope that it works out for them and it may even lead to more women proposing to men.
    But, as a woman, I don't think I would ever propose to a man. I just think that if a man really loves me and wants to be married to me then he will propose to me himself.

    Interesting topic!

    ~CandiceG

    Re: Women who propose to men

    Hi! Happy hump day to you as well! I am all for women to stand up for what they believe and what they want in life. I believe that women should be able to do what makes them happy! I personally would not do this, but i am all for women doing something bold! I think we get our ideas of proposal from the ideals from society and in this society we are submerged into promposals and social media making everything big and men doing huge romantic gestures. Maybe women have grown tired of waiting and want to take things into their own hands!

    Re: Women who propose to men

    While I don't personally know a women who has proposed to a man, I do not think it is wrong for a woman to do so. And if a man were to feel emasculated as a result then I don't think that that relationship is right for either of them since he likes to fill the more traditional roles while she obviously doesn't and doesn't care to.

    Would I do it? I don't know. Still don't know if and when I would even want to get married so proposing seem like a question to ponder further down the road. But I definitely wouldn't let anyone else's expectations or whatever stop me if I did feel like I wanted to do it.

    I am not sure what you mean by a proper proposal but I suppose it has to do with the traditional, chauvinistic roles that were pretty much strictly followed in the past. We are now moving closer and closer to more liberal ideas and so these traditional roles are being questioned.

    Re: Women who propose to men

    Hi Sirena!

    I love gender bender stuff. And this is a great question! It really makes you think of societal norms and why they exist. You first got to ask yourself, why does the man traditionally propose to the woman? I can think of several sequential reasons that really have no place in our modern world anymore.

    Men have always been considered the dominant party in romantic interactions. That doesn't mean it's right, it just means it's the norm. Because of this, men have always been expected to pursue and court the woman. If the man is in charge of initiation at the beginning of a relationship, then he should also be in charge of sealing the deal, right? He should be the one to propose.

    Sure, but it definitely doesn't have to be that way. Just like how you people traditionally walk from place to place (you can be just as inclined to skip if you wish), men have traditionally proposed to women. I think it'd be neat to be on the flip side of that, though!

    If my girlfriend proposed to me and whipped out an engagement ring, I'd be flattered and wouldn't think much of it in terms of it being weird or out of the ordinary. Don't get me wrong, I might tease her for it, but I would be proud that she branched out and took a risk to show me that she loves me.

    It's also interesting that you included this forum in the religion category. That in itself may imply where these "proper" proposal ideas come from. It just goes to show that religion has been restricting our freedoms from the beginning. Come on ladies! Get down on one knee and ask!

    Re: Women who propose to men

    I don’t know many people that have been proposed to in general, but no, I do not know any woman who has proposed to a man.

    It is definitely not wrong. If someone decides that they want to profess their love to someone and ask them for their hand in marriage then they should, regardless of gender.

    I don’t want to get married, but I would propose if I ever changed my mind. I wouldn’t buy a ring though. I hate wearing jewelry and wouldn’t expect to receive a ring either. I am not sure how I would approach the proposal. Maybe I could casually bring it up or make a ridiculous deal out of it by asking the question in a really dramatic way.

    I am not sure where the idea of a man proposing came from. It probably goes back to the olden days when men had to actively seek someone to marry in order to carry on their bloodline and have someone to fulfill their sexual desires and complete housework. Over time, men have typically been held responsible for completing certain tasks in a relationship. But as we progress as a society, traditions start to fade and role start to change.

    Re: Women who propose to men

    society says that a man should propose but I have heard of someone wanting to do it. I do not see anything wrong with it but I think that it could potentially harm a women if she is turned down. Women do not like the word no. It would be something new to see.

    Re: Women who propose to men

    I don't know of any women proposing to men. My personal opinion is that women should not propose to men. God said in Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Find me.

    Re: Women who propose to men

    I agree with so much of what you guys said. I've only seen women propose in movies. How old do you want to be when you get married?

    Xx