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    City or country living?

    created by dessa-meehan 1486 days 1 hour 38 minutes ago

    Category: World

    City or country living?

    In my Arabic class, we were going over comparatives and superlatives and one of the things we have to compare was if we liked the city or the country better. Which got me thinking, this is a great topic for CollegeNET!

    So here it is:
    Are you more of a country person or a city person? Maybe a little of both, so more of a suburban setting?

    Why do you think this is? If you are an introvert are you more likely to live in the country rather than the city? Conversely, are extroverts more likely to live in the city and be surrounded by hundreds of thousands if not millions of people?

    I personally would like to live in the city more. I enjoy the sights and sounds of civilization and being close to entertainment. Don't get me wrong, I love the country, but I wouldn't want to live there the rest of my life. I think maybe the reason I like city living so much is because I grew up in small towns and really never got to experience that. So I have kind of overloaded on small town America living (which equates to country in my mind). I am a major introvert, so I don't think living in the city requires you to be an extrovert. I think desire of living in a specific setting is determined by more than just personality type.

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    I am pretty flexible, I like the life that comes with city life and I love the relaxation that comes with country life.

    The entertainment (Plays, movies, clubs) that are more available, accessible, and the variety is more abundant in cities. Plus the different cultures and mix of people (I love to people watch)

    But I also love the quiet, I enjoy going out into the yard in my small town, and reading. While listening at nature, not traffic, or the city noise.

    I stress less, and have less tension in the country

    Overall if I had to choose. I would probably go with country life, as long as I can be entertained by Television, internet and books. Then I will take country life, and visit the city to overcome the withdrawals of the entertainment.

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    I love the quiet serene environment of the country. I like the sounds of the trees as the wind rustles their leaves. I like the smell of the grass and earth as it rains. I love seeing wildlife a little more up close and personal. I like not having neighbors two feet away from my windows. I love the darkness that allows us to see the stars at night.

    I have never lived in the country. The biggest downside is that it is a long drive from everyone and everything interesting. Even buying a gallon of milk is a major production!

    I have always lived in or very near the city. I love the activity, I love the sounds and sights. How at one minute a very poor humble person walks the same sidewalk as the highly paid lawyers and judges and neurosurgeons and celebrities and so on!

    Now that I am not raising kids, I wouldn't mind living anywhere. Raising kids in the city is a tough job!

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    Oh, definitely the country, darlin'! There is a sense of "home" when living in the country, even if you are at the grocery. There is always someone you know everywhere you go. It is not crowded.

    There is a stillness in the air. The crickets, the frogs, the birds, the grasshoppers. All can be heard and the sounds are relaxing.

    Laying in the green grass; climbing up bales of hay; dipping your feet in the cold river; seeing the stars at night; and hitting that dusty, dirt road that leads to home; that's something you can't find in the city. No traffic. Bonfires.

    "How's your Mama?" Grab a few beers. Stand outside and talk til the morning light. Listen to the music as loud as you want. Growing vegetables in a garden. Grabbing an inter tube and float down the river. Only to get out and do it again.

    Riding four wheelers and trucks through the mud. Just to get stuck and get the tractor to pull you out. Go hunting and bring home your kill for home cooked meal. Sitting on the river bank fishing. Going boat riding for no reason. Letting the dogs run free.

    Fires roasting marshmallows. See cows in the middle of the road. Fish fries in the back yard. Shooting fireworks any night. Competitions consist of who has the dirtiest and muddiest truck. Go to the grocery store covered in mud (and no one thinks anything of it).

    That's what I love about country living. No need to live in the city.

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    I lived in the city most of my life. I grew up in Brooklyn, NY then at the age of 15 my family moved to Allentown, PA. It is complete the opposite of my personality because I am an introvert. As I got older I moved to the quiet part of the city.

    I always desired to live in the country. Maybe once I am done with school here in Lynchburg, VA, I might go and look for something in the country.

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    Country! I'm from the city but I've always wanted to live in the country.

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    I am more of a suburban kind of person though I would want to work in a city. I like the activity of a city but only to a certain extent. Like I would not want an overload of activity and stimuli. And there is definitely a convenience to a city. Restaurant delivery at 2 AM - I take advantage of that at least once a week. As a night person (and a bit lazy to make my own person when I am busy) that is important to me.

    On the other hand, I do like the grass and nature that you do not see much of in the city. I want to be able to go outside and breath in (mostly) fresh air and I want it to be calm and quiet (think relaxing). But I would still not like the country because it is too quiet and too roomy.

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    I lived in the suburbs my entire life, until I moved to Philadelphia for school. I can tell you now, with confidence, that I love living in the city and I much rather prefer it over the suburbs or the country.

    I think the main reason I love the city so much is because there is always so much to do. Things are easily accessible and open late. There is always so much going on, and a lot of times it’s free or for a fairly minimal price. Homes are small, pushing your social lie out and about. I like that.

    I like the go go go of the city, the constant buzz and all its happenings. There’s just something very appealing about the culture that comes with a city.

    - Maryham

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    Give me the city life... as long as there is a body of water nearby. Preferably the ocean. There should also be a lake suitable for boating and wake boarding. I need my water time fun to survive life.

    Actually, if it were a remote city surround by lots of nature, I'd enjoy that too. I like my bustling, vibrant cites. I also like to be able to escape it every once in a while. I enjoy the great outdoors so much. Hiking, trail running, laying out and looking at the stars, exploring and finding the beauty in the natural world is so relaxing. It also allows me to be reminded how much we need to take care of our planet. Nature allows me to think peacefully and to put things into perspective. I love fresh air. Staying cooped up inside all day isn't for me, unless it's ridiculously cold or something.

    I don't think being an introvert or extrovert necessarily means you're going to enjoy one environment over the other. I mean, for some people yes, I'm sure it plays a role. But I think an extrovert can still appreciate more remote settings. And I know plenty of introverts who love living in the city. It all depends on what you think you need to survive. It depends on your desires. People will be whichever personality they are in either setting.

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    I think if I had to choose I would say living in a country. I am more of a quiet person, a fun evening for me is sitting on a comfortable chair in a warm house with a book in my hand. I also love nature, I could stay a whole day outdoors on the grass under the sun and I wouldn't mind. Crowded places make me feel nervous and uncomfortable.
    But when I actually think of it I can't live without the entertainments the city provides, or the distance convenience.
    Final choice country life!!

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    I love the city. From repeating what you said, I am an extrovert and I prefer the city as I prefer to talk to everyone, and be inspired by all of the unique things that the city has to offer. Does it have a glow-in-the-dark Improv show? Check. Free art exhibit? Check. Underground band show and Pad Thai afterwards? Check.

    I love big cities, but in my opinion, not all big cities are the same. For example, I was disappointed when we went to Portland that I didn't see a lot of history and the prices for everything were expensive. You see; I have a checklist for big cities that I can like. I don't like the West Coast for some reason; the cities have to have a mix of Mom and Pop shops, chains, and white linen restaurants, so that food is balanced and reasonably priced; it has to have a beach; everything has to be within walking distance; I have to have H&M and Forever21 within reach; most of the buildings have to be historic; the city fairly clean, and the majority of people that I meet have to be down-to-earth.

    You might ask: "So, where in the hell would that be?" My answer: Chicago. I love Chicago--and it hits all of my buttons. I have been to many cities; both in Europe and the U.S., and I haven't found a similar place, except for NYC, which comes close. Every time we go to Chicago, I want to stay, and I think that we will eventually end up there.

    And now, for my theory on small towns. So--I love the idea of the country; a simple life and a focus on nature & self-sufficiency. Being originally from a small town, I have noticed that a lot of the people tend to have a more conservative point-of-view. Normally, I would support people believing what they wish, but with some people not wanting to explore new places and new ideas, this creates an unhealthy microcosm of closed-minded mentalities. People don't have new "thinking" blood, and therefore the town, (for better or worse) stays the same. "It's the way we have always done it, so why change now" mentality. As I mentioned, I don't think it is healthy. Life is meant to be an ongoing learning process, and we are not meant to learn only from people just like us.

    (A recent study from the Pew Research Center mimicks what I am referring to; that many conservative people tend not to want change, even if it is for the better. Source: So far, my research--first hand experiences with everyday people--has also mimicked this study.)

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    I actually think there is a third option: suburbs. Gosh I love the suburbs. I like leaving my car unlocked and being able to walk around without worrying about my safety. I have lived in the city and the country so I am going suburbs for the best of both worlds. I love the peace and quiet of the country, but I don't like being real far from civilization in case of emergencies, but it is nice for every now and then. I love the energy of the city: the ease of public transportation that takes the need to drive and maintain a car away. The food, the nightlife, the feeling of energy and being "in on" everything that is happening in town. I feel very connected to life in the city.
    But I like my suburbs. It's quiet enough, not too quiet. It's connected enough, I have to walk a bit to get to the bus, etc. It's like the three bears...this one is just right.

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    Great topic!!!

    I am definitely a city person. I would love to live in Chicago if it wasn't so cold!

    I love the city because there is always so much to do! Cities are always bustling with people rather than the country where it is more quiet. I like to be able to walk downtown to go shopping and get lunch. It is easier and faster than having to drive for miles just to find the nearest grocery store. It is easy to get around with a bike or even walking rather than having to worry about rush hour and traffic while driving. The weekend is never boring because there are so many different things you can do with your friends in the city! I also love how gorgeous the city looks at night. Don't get me wrong nature and trees are beautiful, but I absolutely love how gorgeous the city skyline looks when all of the lights are on.

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    Hi dessa-meehan!

    This is an excellent question for Cnet! Obviously, because you're near the top of the most active page! I have lived in the country all of my life. I was born in the small farming town of Modesto, California and was raised in the even smaller lumber town of Tuolumne, California.

    From there, my parents moved to Arizona and brought me (of course) along with them. When you say Arizona, the first city that comes to mind is Phoenix, but, as it where, we didn't move there. We moved to a small rural town once again. The old copper mining community of Cottonwood, Arizona.

    Now that I'm in college, I've moved and now live full time in Flagstaff, Arizona. Flagstaff, in Arizona terms, is considered a city, but really isn't if you compare it to others. About 60,000 people live here and the city's total square footage can fit inside Los Angeles probably a thousand or so times. Flagstaff is essentially the largest town that I have ever lived in. Is that sad to say? I'd say no.

    I love living in the country. In French that would read, a la campagne. Even though I love living rural, I have never lived in a city, so I don't know the other side of the story. The closest proximity wise that I have ever lived in a city was when my family briefly resided in Sparks, Nevada, a suburb of Reno. Being in 1st grade at the time, I never really visited Reno or interacted with the city whatsoever, so it felt like living in the country again.

    When I need to move again after graduating from college, I think I'll move to a city. It will be a culture shock for me, but I need to do it if I'm going to make anything out of my film degree. Most people instantly assume that I want to move to Los Angeles, but that's not the case. Dastardly city. Some parts of it, anyway.

    I would much rather move to Portland. You get the benefits of living in a city (connections, active economy, job opportunities) and the benefits of living in the country (the ocean and Mt. Hood nearby). I think it would be an easier transition for me, just a simple country boy.

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    Ooh I would say both. I like the serenity that you get from country life. But sometimes the pace of life can be so painfully slow. I also like the city conveniences like being walking distance from stores and restaurants. But the traffic is a nightmare.

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    I grew up in a few various simple country living locations growing up, Missouri, Mojave Desert in California, and Colorado. I can tell you one thing, families are tight, however emotional reactivity is high.

    Importance and value was placed on having a family, drama with the family and knowledge of world news was near impossible. People were just so caught up with each other, and with complaint of lack of wages. Also, substance abuse was high, I think mostly because of boredom and, once again, lack of education. I know this fits many aggressive stereotypes of "country bumbkins" however, it really WAS that way.

    Of course, there was the benefit of always being seen, graduate and everyone is there, get an accomplishment and everyone wants to come over and have a cook out, get in a car accident and have a line of visitors and flowers, move and always have help, those sorts of things. Community.

    Seattle, the big city, can be lonely and dangerous, I have had my car broken into several times, even stolen one time, and I have been violently mugged. I have experienced many faux friends whom only want to go to the bar and never really get real, or are truly interested in your life. I have experienced many deep friendships of globe trotters as well. I know plenty of people all around the world now because of college and city life. The challenge is, feeling that sense of being seen, that consistent community. Not to say I have not had that on and off, but there is a beat here, a movement.

    You have to keep up. I love it, but you have to keep up.

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    I grew up in a small city and always thought I would want to live in a huge city like NYC. As an adult however, big cities totally assault my senses and makes me freak out a bit.
    I have also become very introverted as I have become older. Somedays when it's beautiful out I want to go enjoy it but then hate so much the idea of someone talking to me. Ugh. My introversion has become frustrating.
    I was happiest when living in a small town in Alaska. Food, music, a couple of bars, beauty, and tons of solitude... What a good way to live.

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    If it was a perfect world I would have both but since it isn't I think I would choose country living but not farm and land; more mountains and views type of country living :)