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    Would you follow your love to college?

    created by rjmsbabygurl 3323 days 4 hours 50 minutes ago

    Category: World

    Would you follow your love to college?

    My boyfriend of two years and I are seniors in highschool. We had previously agreed on going to K-State next year since we are both going into engineering. But as of recently he is thinking about staying at home and going to a local college because they have offered him multiple scholarships. Idk if I should stay home and go to the same college as him or go to the college I want to which is 3 hours away. I know its not that far but I would be to busy to come home often.

    Would you follow your boyfriend/girlfriend to the college of their choice even if you didnt want to go?

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    I'm kinda in a situation like this. My boyfriend of over 2 yrs is now in college and i'm a senior in highschool. I am interested in going to the school he is now attendning but not sure if I should go or not. If we stay together we may become a distraction to each other. If we break up it would be awkard to me. I'm still undecided. Many have said that you shouldnt follow your spouse because things could go wrong but I say follow your heart!

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    Sadly, I had a girlfriend right before I went to college. And she did mean a lot to me...

    But I had my future on the line. And the choice between a mediocre school or a very good one. When it came down to the choice, she initiated the breakup before I ever got the chance to say something... In which I would have chosen my college I am attending.

    I believe that when you place your faith where it needs to be, everything will work out.

    (We still talk daily and I'll see her when I head back home. =])

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    Honestly, do what is best for you. You'll have to look at a few different outcomes:
    Go to school at KS State: you'll either stay together or split up.

    Go to school locally: you'll either stay together or split up.

    Which situation is going to have the worse outcome? Which situation would make you the most happy? What is best for you?

    Personally, I would not follow my love to college. I would work hard at my school work and also work hard at my relationship. Long distance relationships are not so bad anymore and three hours away is not that far. But, each situation is different and you have to make your own decision :)

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    You should go to the college of your choice. If your boyfriend chooses to go to the college closer to home, then let him. If your relationship is strong and it is meant to be, you will make it through the next 4-5 years. If not, this will give you the opportunity to find out before you decide to get married or something.

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    Both school are very nice schools so its kinda confusing for me. I would still see him when I came home but things would be difficult. My boyfriend is one of those VERY JEALOUS types for no good reason so that would cause problems. I'm most likely going to go to the college I want to go to unless something happens that could change my mind.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    rjms,

    I'm going to tell you what I would tell my own offspring - this is life experience talking here. If you want to make a life with another person, become a whole person first. You're still so young that you aren't yet who you're going to be, and you need to give yourself the gift of enough space and growth and time and opportunity to do that. So that's the first thing.

    The second thing is this: anyone who is "very jealous" is not a person who is grown up enough for making commitments to. That's a very childish way to act, and can even become dangerous (although I'm sure you would insist that he is not dangerous). So, that's the second thing. BOTH of you need time and space and opportunity to grow into yourselves and your own lives.

    But here's the third thing to remember, and I mean for the rest of your life. Love frees the beloved. This means that when two completely free people choose each other, nobody's will has been co-opted and no one is "in charge" of the other one, or mollifying the other one, or any of that nonsense. I think there is a part of you that knows you're ready to spread your wings a bit, and that's the healthy part of you.

    And after all, if you two are made for each other (or, to be less drastic about it all, if you would be good life companions eventually), you will know that when you are both whole, entire, autonomous, educated, free adults. Your time spent doing that - each in your own way - will make that someday better. And if you're not going to end up together forever (much more likely, statistically), then you may as well step into your adulthood without shackles on.

    Short Answer: each of you ought to follow your own dreams to college.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    Well Im not telling you what to do but I feel like this:
    You have to think about it like this and ask yourself this question, why are you going to follow your boyfriend to a school that you know you dont want to be at? Dont you think that you would just end up not being happy overall. And that since your not really satisfied then it will affect our relationship in the long run. If you dont want that to happen, follow your own dreams, make your own footsteps in the world. Its not like you two will never see each other again, you will just be sepeted for a period of time. Absence makes the heart grow fonder babygirl!

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    If it was me, I would go to the school I want to go to. What happens if you end up at a school you do not want to go to and then you and your boyfriend break up? (Hopefully that is not the case) It would be unfair to yourself to be unhappy at a school you do not like. If you are truly in love, the distance and being at different schools won't matter. You will be able to work through it :)

    Just do what makes you happy and is best for you in the long run.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    I guess as somebody else says, if you love your boyfriend a lot to be in the same school and see him everyday then do it, if you want to space out a little bit, then go to another college. When it comes to preferences, only what you want should matter; however, if your boyfriend is jealous, umm, that is not a good sign, think twice on this one.

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    I would never follow a boyfriend to college. I prefer to have my own life. I don't like it being affected by other peoples lives. What I mean by this is that I would prefer to go to a good school that is expensive and far away than one that is close and might not have as good an education as what you could get far away.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    You have the opportunity to go to the school you want. You should never let anyone get in the way of that. Don't change your plans for a guy. If you guys are meant to be together, then things will work out. Two years is a pretty good start to a relationship and if you guys mean that much to each other, you should be willing to support each others' dreams and goals. You can both go to different schools and still be together. It does work. My boyfriend, now husband, and I were 5 and a half hours away and things worked out for us.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    I'm with Career4Me on this. And he must have some really great qualities that compensate for the fact that he's the "jealous type." If he loves you, he'll rough it out and be there for you no matter where you go.

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    I agree with Career4me and lovingmyfamily. You should follow your heart and go to the school that you want to go to. Don't give up something as important as your college experience. If it was me, I would not give up going to a really good school just to be near my boyfriend. And like a couple people already said, if it is meant to be, you both will be able to handle the distance and it will work out.
    You should be glad the school's only 3 hrs away, though. Some couples, whose long distance relationships do end up working out, are a lot farther apart from each other!

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    I say K-State. It is the school that you originally wanted to go to and if you two don't end up together you will still be in a good college. You need to focus on your future career while in college. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be then it will happen and you guys will be able to tough it through the long distance relationship thing. Although it does suck. Trust me I know. But if its meant to be it will work. :)

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    NO I WOULD NOT FOLLOW MY BOYFRIEND TO COLLEGE, BUT I WOULD FOLLOW MY HUSBAND TO COLLEGE. BECAUSE A BOYFRIND IS JUST THAT A BOYRIEND, THERE IS NO CONTRACT OF ANY KIND BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU. JUST A UNDERSTANDING AND BELIEF OF I LOVE YOU. YES MARRIAGES ENDS, THROUGH COURT PRECEEDING.BUT THERE IS AT LEAST PAPERS SHOWING SOME KIND OF ACT OF COMMITMENT TO A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP. BUT A BOYFRIEND CAN QUIT YOU THE SECOND YOU TURN DOWN THE COLLEGE OF YOUR CHOICE OR THAT 100% SCHOLARSHIP YOU WERE OFFERED. LEAVING YOU WITH A BROKEN DREAM AND HEART ACHE.IF HE WANTS YOU HE WILL WAIT OR OFFER TO MARRY YOU.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    My bestfriend and I just printed out the dorm contract for K-State and plan on filling it out and sending it in asap. So thats where I've decided to go. Thanks for your thoughts =)

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    Good decision! You will be a lot better off there, I can promise you. Like I said, if it is meant to be, it will happen.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    You should absolutely not change your decision based on a relationship. We all have the right to lead our OWN lifes and ensue our own dreams. We all have the right to be independent. I believe making decisions based on someone else is a true recipe for disaster.

    For example, my sister has been in relationships with guys since high school, where she has invested all of her time with and for her boyfriends. She invested herself in the wrong guy and ended up dropping out of school and never going to college. Her boyfriend(s) has always comsumed her, always first before herself. They are her world. She bases her life around them. She really doesn't have any of her own interests and shes a waitress in a restaurant (with no life goals) at age 26.

    I'm not saying you are going to mess up your life but... most relationships end, whether you want to believe it or not. You may be an exeption, getting married to your high-school love, but (to be blunt).. you probably aren't. I just believe you should do whats right for you. Do what you want and don't let anyone hold you back. Nobody wants to spend their life thinking "what if?".

    Good Luck.

    Re: Would you follow your love to college?

    In my opinion you go to the school that fits your needs. If the relationship your in is meant to last it will no matter what you chose. so i would pick the eduacation that means more for you.