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    LGBT and what it means to me

    created by Brooklynfox 10 days 2 hours 52 minutes ago

    Category: World

    LGBT and what it means to me

    One day I was born. I didn’t know what my life would be when I was born but I didn’t have a choice. I spent years hating my dad and fearing for my mother. Both my parents are great strong people who have ups and downs. I never realized how fortunate I was to be born into my family. When I was 6 I had 3 grandmas all on one side. I didn’t think anything of it. Later I learned that my grandma is a lesbian and one lady was her ex and the other her girlfriend. I went on with my life because that didn’t matter to me, it was normal. I was so excited that I could be with women. I told my parents I was going to marry my best friend. My dad told me “maybe someday” I thought that it was because I was to young, not because the world around me wasn’t ready. In fifth grade I found out I like women and it terrified me because I wanted to have a house a husband and children and be a normal family. I couldn’t like girls. In 7th grade my brother came out as a lesbian and his girlfriend was pansexual. I liked that. Not caring what gender people were living them for them being attracted to all genders. The next year I discovered my brother was transgender. (He is female to male hence the pronouns) I didn’t care I was happy for him and I still am. When he showed a feminine side I still supported him. He identifies as a demi boy. He is my best friend. I have only ever known LGBT. It upsets me when people tell me there are only 2 genders and trans people don’t exist. They degrade my friends and family to nothing. It upsets me that they don’t want lgbt to be covered under the anti discrimination act. It angers me. It angers me that trans cant join military simply because people don’t understand it. My family and friends are human I’m human we are real and we want to be treated with respect.

    Re: LGBT and what it means to me

    Hey Brooklynfox,

    Thank you for sharing your background and personal feelings. You are absolutely entitled to be treated with respect and valued as a human being! I can't begin to imagine what you have endured as you have navigated your way through adolescence and into adulthood! I have no personal experience with discrimination as it relates to ones own sexual identity, so I can only say that I respect your journey and hope you find love along the way! We all deserve to give and receive love. And when you find it, grab ahold and enjoy every minute of it!


    Re: LGBT and what it means to me

    Good morning, Brooklyn,

    I am really sorry you have had to endure tremendous amounts of pain because people don't understand the LGBT community. While I do not have any personal experience with transgender friends, I do have friends, a family member and neighbors who are gay. So to me, I see them as people and am proud to call them my friends and family. I don't know any other way. For some reason I thought that the military allowed transgender people to enter the military but after your post read that they no longer do. It is a shame. They are missing out on some quality people who are eager to serve.

    "The Obama administration announced a plan in 2016 for the armed services to begin accepting transgender recruits at the start of this year. But before the plan could take effect, President Trump abruptly reversed course, announcing on Twitter in July 2017 that the military would “no longer accept or allow transgender individuals to serve in any capacity,” because the military “cannot be burdened with the tremendous medical costs and disruption that transgender in the military would entail.” Military leaders were given little notice of the change, which has left a wake of controversy and confusion."

    I hope one day soon our world will be more understanding and accepting and free of hate and disdain of the LGBT community. You are right, we are human beings. We all deserve to be loved, respected and accepted.

    You sound like a really strong and brave individual. I give you a lot of credit. Thank you for standing by your family and friends, too!

    Have a great day.


    Re: LGBT and what it means to me

    Hello Brooklyn,

    I am glad to see that you are writing and being expressive of your truth. Thank you for being transparent with us as I am mentioned before, collegenet is a great place to have a support system. Yes this world we live in could be a cruel place with cruel people doing cruel things. You are here for a reason, your experiences have happened for a reason. I want to say that you are visible and everyone in the LGBTIQ community is visible. I believe change is going to come but not without a fight. All great changes that took place, it too a fight and it took time. Use the hurt, the pain and the anguish, not to get even but to educate others around you and surround yourself with others who can relate to your struggle. Keep your pen to paper, and write and engage the creative side of you. You are stronger than you know. I am cheering you on


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    I'm bisexual so I know what it's like to be picked on about liking both boys and girls. I knew i was bisexual in fourth grade when I first dated a girl. I actually enjoyed dating her and she lived right across the street from me.

    Thanks for the forum and a trip down memory lane.