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    How do you handle loss?

    created by jwade13 37 days 10 hours 29 minutes ago

    Category: World

    How do you handle loss?

    Hey CNet,

    Yesterday was a very hard day for my entire family. And I looked around and was interested to see how different people handle loss or how they grieve.

    Every single person was different. I am typically one to cry, and let it out because it's almost harder to hold it all in. But some, hold it in and maybe cry later or never do.

    How do you handle loss?

    -Jess

    Re: How do you handle loss?

    Hi Jess,

    I am sorry for your loss.

    I am like you and have to cry to let it all out.

    The last time I lost someone close to me was 5 years ago. My grandma, who played a huge part in raising my older sister and me, passed away while I was in another country. I ended up being told about it over the phone by my parents. I cried a lot. When I was more calm, I talked to my husband about different memories of my grandma.

    When I got back to the States, I visited the mortuary where my grandma's ashes were placed, along with my grandpa's. My husband came with me (he was my boyfriend at the time), and he talked to me about my grandparents, since he didn't really get to know them (my grandpa passed when I was 12).

    I think for me, I need to cry first, then sort my emotions. I try to confront my feelings, rather than repress them, even if it's hard. I then try to think about memories with that person, and reminisce about life.

    As a nurse, I'm still not sure how I will deal with the death of others on a more regular basis. I lost my first patient recently, and it affected me for a while (it still does). I hope to be able to support a patient's loved ones during a hard time of loss.

    Keeping you and your family in my thoughts,

    - dymphie

    Re: How do you handle loss?

    Hey Jess,

    Sorry to hear about your loss and that you and your family are going through a rough time. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    I agree that grieving is one of those things that everyone handles very differently and that there is no wrong or right way to handle grief-its just what works for you and helps you through the process.

    Sometimes I think it is difficult for others to understand this or even be supportive of it as it may be so different from the way they are handling the grief themselves.

    I hope you and your family find some comfort in having each other close and knowing that others are thinking about you.

    Kathy

    Re: How do you handle loss?

    Hi Jade, I pray peace for your family. The greatest loss I experienced was my father while I was a teenager. I remember, feeling like there was no need for me to go one because he wasn't going to be here to go to my prom, possibly my wedding and all the other things Fathers support you in. It was a dismal time for me that went on for years to follow. I became a recluse and every so often, I would find myself crying what seemed to others just spontaneously. I questioned why all the time but I am much better now.

    Re: How do you handle loss?

    Hi Jess,

    I'm sorry for the loss you and your family experienced and the sadness that follows it! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

    You are right, grief is such a personal thing! As for me, I am always, initially, in a state of quiet disbelief. Then, the emotions kick in. Typically, I will cry; I've never been able to keep my tears at bay! Once I go through that phase, I can rationally accept the loss. I can then handle and work through my grief. I certainly go through the inevitable ups and downs though!

    Thinking of you,

    Christi

    Re: How do you handle loss?

    Hi Jess,
    Although I have not lost anyone close to me since I was 7 years old, I can't imagine exactly how I would react. I do think about "what ifs" when I am alone and shed a few tears knowing this will one day happen. This makes me think I would be the type of person to hold in my tears until I am alone and then cry for hours before wrapping my head around the situation.

    Thank you for the forum!