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    Single/ In a Relationship/married /its complicated

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    Single/ In a Relationship/married /its complicated

    Hey CNET,

    How are you today?

    What's your relationship status?

    If you are single do you want to be in a realtionship ?

    I am currently Single. I have been for almost two years. It does not bother me. I date and hang out , but I am not pursuing anything serious. I honestly need to focus on school and being serious about someone will kinda detour me. So I am just taking it slow and just letting thing happen as they may.

    What about you ?

    Julia

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    Hey Julia!

    I am a single 18 year old. I can't say I haven't wanted a girlfriend, but the past 4 years of high school I watched my friends who were in relationships have to deal with more drama then I wanted to deal with like cheating, lying, controlling, arguments over petty things, no free time to hang out with friends, trust issues, etc.....I remember my mom telling me to try not to have a relationship because of the list I just gave you and I have to admit she was right on that. She told me I was young and to have fun because there were no do-overs in high school, so I actually took her advise and had fun going to parties and dances and not having to worry about having to answer to someone else if I wanted to dance or go out with another girl. I'll be ready when I feel ready, right now I just started my first year of college and I'm enjoying all the different people I've been meeting. Plus my friends that were in relationships in high school are no longer in those relationships once they graduated which I figured would happen...too much drama.

    Have a great day!

    Thankful

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    Hi Julia,

    It's a good thing that your trying to focus on school more and I may need to take some notes from you lol.

    I've been single for all my life. I've never had a boyfriend or even been asked out so I have no idea how relationships works. I do want a boyfriend and sometimes get so frustrated watching everyone my age or even younger than be in relationships but not being in one myself.

    Now, I'll wait patiently until my Prince finally arrives but for now, I need to focus more on school and I'm so glad that you brought up that point.


    Thanks a lot and have a wonderful day!

    -Unique

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    Hey Julia!

    I am currently single. I also have the same outlook as I hang out and talk but I do not purse anything. For right now I just want to focus on my school also! One thing I have learned is that when you're not looking for something or forcing something it will come without you expecting it!

    Thanks!
    Madison

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    Hello,

    I am currently single. I think I'll remain single for the next few years- I don't understand how someone can juggle their romantic relationship and school. I've seen how my friends act when they're in relationships and sometimes I long for it. Just to hold someone close and cuddle them. Even then, I fear I might die alone- well not really a fear but I kinda predict it. I've never really had a crush, I'm 18, and a part of me is okay with that.

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    Hi Julia,

    I have been single for almost three years. My last relationship was not that serious so when I moved away for school we ended it. I am just trying to graduate with a good GPA so I don't have much time for dating right now.

    Thanks for the forum!

    Shanz

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    @All, My single people. It's okay to be single. The onw for you will come when it is time. Not all relationships are filled with endless drama and cheating. I think at this young age making a life for ourselves is way more important. Once all the hard work is done then it is sure to be a flourish in your dating life.

    You all are awesome!

    Thanks for posting

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    Hey,

    I’m in a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we are still happily in love. This is literally the best relationship I’ve ever been in. I feel absolutely blessed to have found someone that loves me for me.

    -Regiknee

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    Hey Julia!
    I am currently single and happy. I have always been single, but only recently have I learned to be content with it. I have never pursued a relationship either, because I realize now that I simply haven’t felt romantic attention for anyone. I’ve come to accept that if one day something changes I will happily go along with it, and if nothing changes I will happily live my life surrounded by friends and family who love me immensely and whom I love back. Ultimately, I’ve decided to be happy no matter what the future holds.

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    Hey Julia,
    I'm married. I've been married for almost 4 years now and together with my husband for 7. I met him at the gym when I was perfectly fine with being single and wasn't looking for anyone! It was when I was finally happy just being by myself, that I met the person I was meant to be with. We make a great pair and it just keeps getting better with age!

    My advice to anyone, be happy with yourself and focus on the happiness of your own life and the rest of it will fall in to place!

    Thanks,
    Morgan

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    Hi Julia,

    I’m single and always have been, except for a few weeks in middle school, but does that even count?

    I enjoy being single because it gives me more time to figure myself out and what I want to do with this life I have been given. Eventually I’d love to have a girlfriend, one who I’d make my wife, but I am patiently waiting for the right one. I am very picky with finding a mate. I want to be married until I die so I want to be with someone that makes me a better me and someone who can tolerate all my imperfections at the same time. I am not picky about how she looks, but more about her personality and our common goals and interests. I can easily see that something is not going to work out. I hate to be pessimistic, but if I’m not passionate now about someone now I don’t think when times get tough I’d still be passionate. I don’t think our passions should have to be forced. You either like someone in a romantic way or you don’t. I think you can develop feelings as time goes on no doubt. I’m at the point where I’m looking for the one girl who I can’t live without. I have many amazing friends that are girls, but none seem like her yet. And like others have said, it’s fun to be single!

    Have a nice day CNetters!

    ~Jon

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    HI!

    i have been in a relationship for 10 years with my high school sweetheart. He asked me to prom and we have been together ever since. I think its good to learn to be on your own for sure! We lived apart for a few years and it really helped to establish who i was and my own persona.

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    Hello Julia,

    That is a great attitude to have about it! I feel like people, like me, can get caught up in wanting what you don't have which is kind of unhealthy!

    I am currently dating someone, but the past couple of weeks we have had a hard time realizing that we kind of want other things for our future. For example, he wants to travel and have fun new exciting jobs, but I am ready to settle down and have kids soon! Right now my dating relationship is causing lots of stress, but I do think it is worth it because I do want to be married within the next couple of years! I am 24 years old and all of my college friends are married, so I have a hard time wanting the next phase of life! Dating and time will determine if my boyfriend and I are right for each other in the long run! I am not trying to stress about it too much!

    Thanks!
    -Alex

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    Hey Julia,

    I am in a relationship and have been for around 4 1/2 years now. We have lived together for over 3 1/2 years. He says he doesn't believe in marriage, however I honestly hope he does change his mind as I would like to be married. Sure it may be just a "piece of paper" to some but I do feel there are some differences between marriage and living together long-term. Also I won't lie, I would like to share the same last name as my son. I won't force him though and it is not really something I feel I would leave him for either.

    -Raeanna

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    Hi julia,

    I have been single for a while, I've had a couple girlfriends here and there, one I had a kid with back when I was 20, but we only dated 4 months. I wish I knew why I struggle with relationships. I spend a ton of time working on myself, exercising, learning, working, it is hard meeting anybody who doesnt drink it seems, and I want somebody who is going to motivate me and not hold me back. Its rough, and I cant understand why it's so difficult to find anyone.

    Max

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    Hey!

    I am happily married :)

    Thanks
    Have a great night!