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    Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    created by NjBr 283 days 2 hours 5 minutes ago

    Category: Entertainment

    Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Good morning all!

    Do you think a guy should ask a girl out or girl ask a guy out?

    - I am just not sure about this question. It always pops up during conversations. I think that it's ok for either to ask one another out then again most of my friends don't agree with me and more than 99% they say a guy should ask the girl out. I'm like what is wrong with girl asking a guy out and they go on about a list of things as to why a girl shouldn't.

    So what are your thoughts?

    Have great Friday!

    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Hey NjBr!

    If I never would have made a move on my boyfriend, we wouldn't be together. Now we are celebrating our 4-year anniversary!

    I believe in feelings. I felt something special about my current boyfriend, so I went for it. All the boyfriends I had before him all chased after me and I never had a real connection with them. Before my current man, I started to believe I wasn’t capable of connecting with another person. That is why I was so eager to snatch up the opportunity to be with him as soon as I felt the spark!

    Honestly, it really doesn't matter. I don't think societies social norms should keep you from connecting with someone. If that person catches your eye in some unexplainable way, you need to take that opportunity despite your gender. You don't get opportunities like that every day. I should know. The man I am currently with is the only man I have ever truly liked. If I wouldn't have been bold, we might not have been together today.

    Who cares what anyone else thinks! Fallow your heart!


    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Hey NjBr,

    I don't think it's fair to put expectations on people like that. If you want to hang out, ask the other person! It's something simple that we make complicated in our own minds.

    I was listening to a radio show in the morning, and the girl tricked the guy into going on a date by telling him that it was a coworker happy hour. He realized it wasn't a happy hour because she had a table ready for the two of them!

    On the radio show, they make a follow up call to the man with the woman on the other line silent. And basically the girl was so terrified of asking him out (even though it would have been way less weird) that she tricked him. He felt tricked, but also kind of liked her despite the date.

    Anyway, they ended up going on a second date after SHE asked HIM.


    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Hi njbr,

    I feel like it can go either way but I am very shy so I have never asked out a guy. There's this guy in my class that I have liked for the longest time. I have caught him staring at me but he never approached me. I wonder all the time if he is just shy and don't have the courage to approach me. The thing is I don't know how to work up the courage to approach him either.

    Ps. Does anyone have any pointers for this shy girl? How can I approach him?


    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Hey NjBr!

    I also agree with Shanz. Who says that guys HAVE to ask girls out? Or vice-versa? It's just been a social norm that's been made that says guys have to ask girls out but that's not the case at all. I'd be so happy if a girl were to ask me out lol!

    - Kyle

    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Hi NjBr,

    Happy Friday!

    I've always believed that a guy should be able to make the first move because he's more dominant than a girl and it was it tradition that a lot of people follow especially christian. I don't have any problems with a girl asking a guy out but I personally wouldn't do it because I believe that it's the guy's job to make the first move since he's the masculine figure and If a guy isn't interested, then he won't ask the girl out which I grew up hearing my relatives say. Also, I'm painfully shy, so I would never imagine making the first move and I'm not to good at initiating conversations. Everyone that I've met are always the ones to initiate a conversation with me. I've never asked a guy out or been asked out before.

    @Shanz Hey,I'm also a shy girl and totally understand the struggles to like someone for a long time but never had the courage talk to them. I think he probably wants to talk to you but is too shy to do so. I think you should try greeting him by saying hi or good morning/afternoon to see how he responds. If he looks really happy, then you should start a conversation and ask him what's his major?, do he like his classes? etc. I know I'm pretty awkward at this lol but I wish you the best when it comes to approaching him. Please keep me updated because I need some courage too.

    Thanks for the forum NjBr and Thank you Shanz for your question :)

    Have a great weekend !

    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?


    So as the girl, I really think it's sweet when a guy asked a girl out. However I have told a guy I liked him but never made the first the thing to say let's go out. I think this way of thinking is because my parents are old fashion and well it seems a little weird to say that I asked someone out to my friends.

    I wouldn't mind asking a guy out especially now a days I have the mentality to go for what I want. Like I said though I think it's sweet if a guy were to ask me out.


    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    I think it would look super attractive if the girl asks the guy out. At the end of the day it's really just feelings that are conveyed that matter, I don't think who asks who out says anything about who wears the pants in the relationship or anything. Although I do hear that the person who falls in love first loses lmao (although I don't really necessarily agree, but I can see the logic behind it). I think if you really like somebody whether or not you're a girl or guy you should ask them out instead of waiting to be asked on, and just because you're a guy doesn't mean you should feel pressured into being the one to do the proposing. Just the fact that a person can gather enough nerves to ask another person out already earns a lot of respect from me!

    Have a good one!

    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Good Friday!!!

    Okay so I'm a teenage young man and I'm a senior in high school. I know I'm not at all experienced in the dating scene, but I have been asked out many of times and it made me appreciate the girl for speaking up even though I wasn't interested in dating at the time which I respectfully would tell them because I wanted to focus on my studies and didn't want anything to interfere with that because relationships are sometimes difficult as I've watched my friends go thru some things. I now am interested in someone and I can say I was a bit nervous and didn't want to face any rejection because I felt she might be above my league, but I knew if I didn't say something she would never know I was interested and I would never know what the outcome would be, so I told her and now we talk about everything and found we have a lot of things in common.

    That being said it shouldn't matter what gender ask the other. As my mom always told me "Closed Mouth's Don't Get Fed"...if you're interested in someone speak up and just ASK! Never assume what a person is going to say. You might regret it later if that person ends up with someone else and you miss your chance.

    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    guys should ask girls out. If girls do the asking, how do you know the guy is really into you and not just happy to go along for the ride?

    Re: Should a guy ask a girl out or girl ask guy out?

    Hi NjBr!

    I would be really interested to hear the arguments your friends have made that girls should not ask guys out! I personally have never asked a guy out, it does feel a little bit that I am holding back because of a social norm that I grew up with, however the older I get I learn how NOT normal some of those norms are becoming!

    So I think its totally okay for a girl to ask a guy out, especially if she is really interested! Not just the guys should have the opportunity to get who they want, girls should go after who they want too. My favorite example of this is the Bachelorette! I know the love stories on this show don't usually work out, but I love watching the bachelorette be in control and get to choose who she wants, since it such the opposite of our social norms.

    That said, I have heard from guys that it feels weird to get asked out by a girl; I think it is because it takes a dig at their masculinity and they don't like how it feels. But now I am reading responses from guys saying they appreciate it!

    In the end, you just gotta do you, and hope for the best.