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    Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    created by cloudabu42 342 days 11 hours ago

    Category: World

    Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    Hey Everyone, congrats to all the winners this week!

    I just started a new job yesterday, and I must say I had so much hope and excitement beforehand and once I got home yesterday I felt crushed and a little foolish for having such high expectations. After having my two previous jobs just suck the living soul out of me, I was really looking forward to having a more relaxed, less stressful interim job to last me the next couple of months until I move... Well I'm starting to think that I was wrong. I am very grateful to even have a job, but there is something so dissatisfying about feeling unstimulated, non challenged, underpaid, and overqualified (I hope I am not coming off as pompous, completely not my intentions). Maybe, the only real problem is myself for setting way too high of expectations?

    Can you think of a time you ever had too high of expectations (whether they were met or not)? Are too high of expectations a good or bad thing? Is it just setting yourself up for failure?

    Curious to hear your thoughts!


    Re: Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    hey Abby!

    I worked out for three months thinking that I was going to lose about 15 pounds of fat and gain muscle. I did see some progress with my arms and legs, but I thought I was going to look like those insta models. I was very dissappointed and stopped working out. I've done some reflection on myself and now I just want to go to the gym and see what happens.

    I had too of expectations on my body. They were not met because I gave up too soon. I think when you compare yourself to the insta workout models then that is when it's somewhat not a good thing because you are not them "physically".

    The good thing is that I will be going back to the gym and this time I am doing it without any expectations :)

    Peace and Love


    Re: Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    Hey Abby!

    I know how you're feeling! Whenever i have high hopes for something or I am excited about something, i always end up being dissapointed. Whether it's an event, job, or anything really, for some reason it never reaches my standards. The thing is, I have noticed in myself that I am a really hopeful person and my husband has also commented on that. I start building hopes and dreams and start believing they will happen. I need someone to go like whoooa slow down girl! We're still at the beginning!

    My husband always tells me not to have high expectations but to instead give myself the lowest expectations possible. That way, if things do go the way I had hoped, I will be more than happy. If not, I won't care. However, it's just not in my nature to do that. I'm always a hopeful person and I always think something is going to happen and get bummed out when it doesn't.

    Anyways, Good luck with your new job!
    Have a great night! :)

    Re: Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    I love to dance. My dance group and I enter a lot of dance competitions and most of the time my dance group and I compare ourselves to the other dancers and we always think positive. But we always have high expectations on ourselves that we would win and end up being disappointed. But on a good note it never stopped us from dancing and sharing our talents.

    Re: Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    Hey Abby,

    That’s happens to me all the time. I have really high expectations for myself, life and things around me. I think that’s where a lot of my anxiety stems from. When things don’t go as expected, it really brings me down. Iv found having high expectations can be a good thing if I have realistic expectations as well. That way I still feel accomplished and have something to still drive for at the same time or next time around!

    Have a good night,

    Re: Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    Hi Abby!

    My last job was a big disappointment. I was so excited and proud that I was offered the position. It paid well, it was something I thought I enjoyed, and had great benefits. Sadly, that sunshine and rainbows phase did not last long at all. It was incredibly exhausting and I was basically expected to respond to calls and emails 24/7 even when I was on vacation. I sucked it up because I didn't want to admit to myself or anyone else that I made a huge mistake. Then about 1-1/2 years into it, I got a new boss...he was a real flipping gem let me tell you. He was a narcissist and a bully. Most people were miserable as it made an already stressful job unbearable. He was doing some unethical things and a group of people challenged him...I was part of that group of 8 people and we were all fired. First time in my life I was fired and it wasn't for performance but because he didn't consider us "loyal." So yes, I've been there. That happened almost one year ago and I must say it was the best thing that could have ever happened. I have been at peace ever since and going back to school now.

    I don't now if it's setting yourself up for failure. On one hand if you don't set your expectations high there's less of a chance you'll be disappointed. However, if you never have high expectations or think a job or whatever comes your way is going to be rewarding in some way, you might not ever take chances and possibly rob yourself of a great opportunity or experience. I think it's ok to be excited, but maybe have a backup plan in mind if things don't work out. You can always tough it out while looking for something better. I'm sure you will find something that makes you happy eventually just don't give up or settle for less than you deserve.

    I hope things get better soon and thank you for your kind words earlier today!

    Re: Have You Ever Had Too High Of Expectations

    Hey Abby!

    I am actually going through the same thing with my job at the moment. At first, the job was amazing (so I thought), and everyone seemed really nice. Once I had been here a couple of months I started to see different sides of people. I caught a couple of them flat out lying to their boss. One boss kept throwing employees under the bus... it just didn’t seem like the work environment I was so excited to be a part of. Now I am going back to school to get back into the medical field, where I have always felt like I belonged in! Good luck! I know it will get better for you!!