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    Love Languages

    created by Sunshine Song 367 days 21 hours 31 minutes ago

    Category: Entertainment

    Love Languages


    What are your top two love languages? How do these love languages show up in your life? Do loved ones in your life know your love language as well?

    There are five major languages of love. Each different language is simply the way you connect with others. Knowing the way you communicate how you care with others, and the way others communicate with you, will help improve your relationships.

    The five love languages of love are:
    Quality Time - Undivided attention with spouses is important. Spending a lot of time, particularly quality time, is essential.
    Words Of Affirmation - Appreciation or verbal compliments are important. Acknowledgement is important. "I really like how you're always on time to pick me up at work."
    Receiving Gifts - Visible items of love speak because gift giving is a symbol of thoughtfulness. “They were thinking of me.”
    Acts Of Service - Doing things you know your spouse would like you to do. “Actions speak louder than words.”
    Physical Touch - Implicit love is important. Sitting close to them, holding hands, brief kiss or hug when walking through the room.

    My primary love languages are quality time and physical touch. It is important to me to be physically present with my boyfriend, as well as mentally and emotionally present. I enjoy sitting close or holding hand with him. I also enjoy getting to know each other or talking about everything and everything with him. We like to talk about feelings and about our day. Without being physically, mentally, and emotionally present with him, I wouldn’t feel like my emotional needs would be met. There wouldn’t be enough substance in our relationship.

    Fortunately, we both speak the same love languages. Although other ones are important, these are the two most important ones for both of us.

    Cheers!

    Song

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    External Link:
    5 Love Languages Quiz - http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
    Understanding The Five Languages Of Love - http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/communication-and-conflict/learn-to-speak-your-spouses-love-language/understanding-the-five-love-languages


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    That ending though... xD

    Re: Love Languages

    Howdy allminesunshine,

    I would say Acts of Service and Physical Touch are my two love languages. I tend to treat all my interpersonal relationships this way and not only my romantic one. I try to show how much I care about someone by actions. I'll always be thinking about them and bringing things such as a coat in advance in case they forget their coat. I also tend to be extremely close with my interpersonal relationships. Cuddling with everyone I am close to is one of my favorite things to do. If I am unable to by physically close to someone I care about, it kind of makes it hard to be as close to them.

    Thanks for reading!

    ~Tera~

    Re: Love Languages

    Hi Song!

    I love the 5 love languages information! I think it's really true, and I try to make sure that I am giving love to people the way that they interpret love, as well as trying to understand that people may not always show love the way I see it, but that doesn't mean they aren't trying to show love. Misunderstandings are so unfortunate in relationships!

    My top love language is Quality Time, no doubt about that. And it doesn't necessarily mean physically present, just giving me attention or showing that you are thinking about me will work too. My next top "one" is actually two -- I tie for Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service. I like thinking about how I can make my loved ones happier.

    Thanks for the forum!

    -Kathryn

    Re: Love Languages

    Hi Song!

    I think the most important love languages for me are words of affirmation and quality time spent together. Although I think I like a little mix of all the languages to a certain degree!

    The love languages are so important to understand, especially when you're in a relationship with someone who has a different love language than you do! You might want to show love to your partner in the same way that would make you feel loved, like spending time together or buying him gifts to show him you care. But if his love language words of affirmation, then its important to try to speak his love language too.

    Thanks for reading!

    - JessicaZ.

    Re: Love Languages

    I keep hearing about this and I'm thinking it might be time for me to delve deeper into the literature!

    Near as I can tell my love languages are Quality Time and Words of Affirmation. Recently I have had difficulties with an old friend of mine. Without getting into specifics, I have to admit that our lack of face time was probably the biggest contributing factor to our falling out. I often feel insecure in the quality of my relationships when I do not have the opportunity to see the other person regularly (even on a monthly occurrence.) Perhaps some of it is a regional thing, in my part of NY we are surrounded by so many people it's difficult to spend time with everyone in your friend circle and still be able to get the rest you need. In my experience, even when one is stretched thin one makes the time for the people who matter on a deeper level. Therefore when my invitations to "get together sometime" aren't reciprocated by someone offering me specifics, I believe they lack interest and will commit to something they find more interesting without hesitation. In contrast, when someone makes an effort to spend time with me although it might be inconvenient for them, it's deeply moving to me.

    it's interesting for me to think of Words of Affirmation as another love language of mine but it is true. It's often difficult for me to be forthcoming with my feelings, especially the more profound ones, but when i say them you can believe that they are true. I've been making a renew effort to hand-write birthday cards this year. The few times that I've received hand-written mail from someone I respected it came as such a welcomed shock that I'll never forget how it can completely change one's perspective for more than just a day. I hope that what I write has that same impact even if I can never fully express the magnitude of my feelings.

    Beautiful prompt, it's nice being able to explore some provocatively positive topics :)

    Re: Love Languages

    I would say Words of Affirmation is my love language. I love when somehow says something nice about me or acknowledges something I've done. It makes me feel really good when my mother shares with me things that she is proud of.

    Re: Love Languages

    Hello Song Mei,

    I'm going to have to go with all 5 love languages. Considering my husband and I have been together for 33 years. I have had a great life and wouldn't change it for anything.

    Have a wonderful day!

    Jenelu Rose