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    Do You Celebrate Your Accomplishments?

    challenge posed by Kate Freeman 290 days 17 hours 48 minutes ago

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    Do You Celebrate Your Accomplishments?

    You work hard for a reason, hopefully, but do you take the time to stop and look at how far you’ve come? Admiring your progress in life, or lack of it, can be a powerful motivator to continue moving forward with zeal for your goals. An article on Harvard Business Review explains the progress principle: “Of all the things that can boost emotions, motivation, and perceptions during a workday, the single most important is making progress in meaningful work. And the more frequently people experience that sense of progress, the more likely they are to be creatively productive in the long run.” It’s all too easy to move through your day robotically and forget all the little “wins”, but acknowledging those positive moments might be key to unlocking your passion for continued success. However, others would argue that being self-critical is the best way to keep that inner fire lit. One recruiting expert interviewed for Inc. said, "People who are self-critical are always analyzing the situation, whether the outcome was good or bad. They are always seeking ways to improve.’ People who are already content with themselves may not try quite as hard to do better.” Is it possible to truly feel joy for your wins and also be self-critical? Are you good about celebrating your wins in life? Do you think this is important/not important? Why? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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    I think it is definitely possible to be critical of yourself while still being proud of your achievements. You need a healthy balance of being proud, and taking a step back to see what you can do better in order to become a better person. If you are too self critical, nothing you do will be seen as an accomplishment to yourself, and thus, you won't be very happy. You will lose motivation to do things as a result of being so negative. At the same time, if you are too proud of yourself, you may be overconfident in what you do, and you may never improve yourself because you feel as though you are so good that nothing can improve when in reality there is always something you can improve! If you are too overconfident and proud, when you finally mess up, you'll feel absolutely terrible and will have a hard time bouncing back from your mistake.

    There needs to be a balance! Celebrating who you are and what you have done can motivate you to do more, and become a better person. One way to celebrate yourself is to focus on the progress you have done, not the end goal .Focus on process, not product. Instead of saying "I want to know how to code a program" say "I will practice programming for 30 minutes every day." That way, you have some direction as to where you want to go, and you won't feel bad if you don't know how to do something right away - learning how to something takes time. You need to know how to celebrate the progress AND the accomplishments you've made in order to keep going.

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    Hi Kate,

    I'm not one who likes to "toot her own horn" but I do like to occasionally allow myself to feel proud if I do something really hard. Having said that, I am always evaluating myself, asking for feedback from my bosses and my employees I am the nurse manager at a busy Urology practice). I feel like i've come along way since first graduating nursing school 11 years ago, but I also realize I have so much to learn! I never want to be complacent and just "okay" where I am in life and so I will always want to seek ways to improve.

    Thanks for the post!

    Marie

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    Howdy Kate Freeman,

    It is sometimes hard for myself to celebrate my accomplishments. I am always in the mood of being onto the next thing in my life. So as soon as I have a new accomplishment, I feel as if it isn't that big cause there is always the next accomplishment lined up.

    I do try to celebrate my accomplishments. I recently obtained my Bachelor's in Psychology. I held a graduation party to celebrate this occasion. I wasn't going to have this graduation party at first until my Grandma asked me about if I was having one. I have to do what Grandma wants. In my mind I still have all the way to my Phd to go, I am no where close to finishing school. By the time I get my Phd I will probably not think much of it either though cause then there is having a successful career!

    Thanks for reading!

    ~Trea~

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    Hi all!

    I actually don't really celebrate my accomplishments that much. When I graduate I'm going to look back and hopefully tell myself "good job". If I'm not where I wanted to be it's going to be harder for me to say that. I'm proud of my accomplishments but I also look back at what I've done and say you could've done better. That may not be fair to myself but that's what I think.

    I actually recently wrote a letter to myself about where I want to be at the end of the year (it was a class assignment). In the letter I basically poured out all of my hopes and fears regarding the year, its outcomes and where I hope to be. It was actually very therapeutic so I recommend this activity all if you feel stressed or you feel like you'll never get anywhere. When I open the letter I hope I will be able to congratulate myself on a year well spent. If not, than I've got work to do.

    Thanks for the forum!

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    Hi, Kate!

    I think it is very important to celebrate your accomplishments whether they are big or small. We all need positive energy in our lives to help us get through the more challenging times. However, I would agree with the recruiting expert that was interviewed in that it is good to be self-critical and learn what we did right and wrong to ensure success continues or is likely in the future. It is important to take a moment even if it is a brief second to feel the pride in the success and to understand what exactly made you successful. If you take the time to determine what made something successful then it is likely that you can apply some of the strategies in future challenges. However, it is just as important to examine why something wasn't successful and what could have been done to maybe had a more successful outcome.

    For example, in competitive cheerleading we would celebrate our victories, but also watch the feedback to determine how we could have made the routine better and what really wasn't working. Critiquing ourselves did not take away from our victory or celebration but it did allow us to continuously strive for improvement. When a routine wasn't successful we would look at the replay to see what did work and celebrate the little things that did work, if only briefly, but it made us a better team.

    Have a great day!

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    Hi Kate Freeman,

    I love taking the time to look at my accomplishments! As the Harvard Business Review article says, making progress in meaningful work feels so good. It makes me want to show up in my life 150% and be the person I say I am. When I was helping my managers train a new employee, the number one thing that helped her get onboard with things was acknowledging her work ethic and accomplishments so far. Just like how I brightened her day with the sense of progress, I try to do the same for myself.

    It is totally okay to be content where you are in life and also seek to improve. Most people who are self-critical tend to be unhappy with their current situation, never satisfied. Most people who are content tend to be passive in life. Personally, I am very self-critical, yet I find so much joy in my life wins. Winning at life doesn’t mean I can relax and ride on my success. Winning also doesn’t mean that I have to be nonchalant about the good things in life. I am working on balance. Feeling joyful is just as important as the drive to self-improve.

    I love celebrating life and wins. I also love celebrating other peoples’ successes. I will treat myself to some yummy food, brag about it to others, and give myself a bit of extra fun free time in celebration. It is so important to acknowledge yourself, as well as other people, because life is more enjoyable when celebrating, yet also continuing to move forward.

    All in all, it is important to keep that motivational drive to move forward in life both by celebration of accomplishments and a healthy dose of self-criticism. Everyone’s balance of the two is different. As stated in the Harvard Business Review, making progress in meaningful work is important. everyone’s sense of how they receive that sense of progress is different. For me, I want to celebrate all the wins in life and know I am doing great. That is what motivates me the most!

    Thanks for reading,

    ~ Song ~

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    Hi Kate, first of all, let me say that I have enjoyed all of your challenge forums. This particular forum serves as a friendly reminder for me to celebrate myself and my wins, be it big or small. I have accomplished a great deal our success throughout the years and have not really taken the time to appreciate it and to celebrate me. Others have celebrated me for which I'm thankful. However, I think I am long overdue to celebrate me.

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    This is a very interesting forum. I think it's a good idea to celebrate accomplishments, whether they're big or small, especially because that is something that has been achieved, and sometimes you've put in a lot of hard work in order to do that. I usually get a "Good job!" or "Good for you!" or perhaps even a "Congratulations!" if I tell my mother that I got a good grade on an assignment or test, especially if it was a tricky one. I do think that doing well fuels my drive to want to keep going, and it's only going to continue until I'm done with school, and then I'll have new accomplishments to achieve when I enter the workforce with my master's degree. Good forum!

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    Good Morning, Kate!

    I feel it is very important to congratulate yourself for setting a goal and actually achieving it. You have worked very hard to achieve goals that many people could only dream of, but you did it! Why not acknowledge your accomplishments. No one is perfect and everything you did along the way to meet that goal is a learning experience and will help you with your next goal. I agree with the Harvard Business Review about needing a little boost to keep you motivated from time to time, but I also agree with the recruiting expert about seeking ways to improve.

    I try not to be so hard on myself, but I know I could always do better. I take what I have learned and I continue to grow and push forward knowing that each little win will help me become better than when I started this journey.

    Have an awesome day!

    Sarah

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    Afternoon Kate,

    I like both of the articles that you've posted, but ever since recently I've been more self-conscious of myself due to the jobs I've been applying for. This is in part due to unsuccessfully getting a job I've always wanted because I was too confident and thought I had the job in the bag. I've got lucky to find other great jobs but I'm very self conscious of myself now.

    While I believe you can celebrate your accomplishments, I think people need to also congratulate the people that helped them get to where they're at. Whether if be a teacher, an old friend, or even some of your family members, it's always great to celebrate what you've done with the people you adore. Even when you do celebrate your accomplishments, you can't ever get full of yourself as well. If for example, you make 5 shots in a row in basketball, yes you can be very confident in attempting your next shot. However, you have to be conscious about the environment around you. All it takes is for an individual to act boastful even when they're not trying and it can sour someone's day or ruin your own opportunities.

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    Hey Kate,

    Yes, I definitely like to take time and look back at what I have accomplished. I have had many accomplishments for the past 10 years. I learned how to speak English which is a major accomplishment for me yayy!! :) Then I got accepted to nursing school. My family definitely celebrated this accomplishment. Nobody thought that I was going to make it this far in education. Nobody really believed in me except my mother. I got many gifts just for getting accepted. We don't have many holidays that we celebrate but we definitely love to celebrate our accomplishments and look forward to accomplishing more things in life.

    Thanks,
    Have an amazing day!
    NjBr

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    Hi Kate,

    I definitely try to celebrate the good things that I do. When the semester is over, I generally try and go and buy myself something nice to basically let myself know that I did a good job. It's hard sometimes to not dwell on the bad things that have happened, or if you could have done things differently or better. However, it's a good trait to have if you can constructively criticize the work that you have done without it being self loathing behavior. It's also just a good idea to reward yourself a little bit now and then because it keeps you motivated to keep doing good. Yes there will be times that you just fail and it honestly happens. Take the time to reflect on what you could have done better and move on. The next time that you accomplish something great, do something nice for yourself!

    Have a great day!

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    No. Not really. I always feel like it's not enough to celebrate.

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    Hello Kate Freeman!

    Yes i think it is important to stop for a second and look at everything you have succeeded in. I think it may be healthy to pause every once i a while and to look at your accomplishments or ask other if they've seen any improvement in you.

    I don't think it's good to be so hard or harsh on yourself. Neither is it okay to always feel that you are perfect, and that you have no regrets. I think people should stand in the middle, where they feel that thrive and work hard to achieve their goals, but on the same time, know when to give themselves a pat on that back. Your body can only handle so much. And if you keep pushing it without any breaks or pleasure, you may end up losing or forgetting your goals.

    At the end, everyone's sole purpose is to be happy, and people do this in different ways. By completing education, or getting a good joob with a nice salary or whatever. So I don't think people should forget that goal. They should continue to accomplish their goals while being happy. Not way to accomplish their ultimate goal to give themseleves a break. Especially since some goals take a while to become accomplished, or never at all.

    Anyways, thanks for the forum! Have a great day! :)

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    Hey Kate,

    Great question and YES, 100%. You have got to celebrate everything that you have accomplished, even the little ones. And when I mean by always celebrate is you don't have to go out to a real fancy restaurant just for a good score on a pop quiz. What I mean is try to appreciate each great moments that you accomplished today, even if it is as little as helping others with their issues or little problems throughout the day whether. Try to tell yourself, " Wow I helped someone who was in need today" or " Wow that was a really good score that I got on the quiz, I gotta tell my parents about this." And of course, if it is a big accomplishment then try to celebrate it even more. It is very crucial for us to appreciate and celebrate everything that we do whether it is big or small and positive or negative. Because if we don't celebrate those things, then why are we even doing it in the first place. So yeah, that's my personal opinion towards that question and I hope to read some other responds toward this topic. HAVE A GREAT DAY CNET.

    Cheers!

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    Howdy Ms. Freeman,


    Thanks for the challenge forum.

    I do celebrate my accomplishments as often as I can because it's often not easy in our world to have accomplishments. Yes there are accomplishments like beating a homework deadline, or an appointment, that I do acknowledge and feel happy about, but when I succeed in buying a new car, completing a program, getting my dream job, meeting my significant other and graduating from my academic program with a good result, I sure will celebrate it because not only does it encourage me to advance to other of life's challenges, but it also encourages others. In fact I'm also celebrating that I'm able to provide a good reference for someone else who may be going through my specific range of struggles or challenges.

    Additionally, I find joy celebrating the accomplishments of others too as it encourages me to forge ahead in contending with my own challenges.

    Thanks again for the forum and for reading my comments.

    Cheers

    Joe

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    Hey Kate!

    I would say that it's not only possible to celebrate your successes while also being self-critical, it's essential to growing and progressing while remaining healthy and balanced. I think it's very important to know yourself in this situation so that you can address your needs for criticism as encouragement or, in contrast, celebration when each is respectively needed for optimal growth.

    I would say I am good about celebrating my wins. I tend to respond better to positive encouragement from myself. Even when being self-critical, I tend to remind myself that I can and will improve.

    Like I said, I think it's really important to know yourself, your needs, and what helps you achieve your goals best. A balance of both self-criticism and self-encouragement is needed for growth and progress to occur.

    Thanks for the forum!

    - Anna

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    Hi there,

    I think it is very important to recognize yourself for a job well done. There are too many situations in our lives that are negative, or stressful which can lower our morale. I'm sure everyone stresses over finances, work, family, etc. Learning to praise yourself for accomplishments no matter how small can be very beneficial. My boyfriend feeds off of praise and I think learning to not only praise yourself but also others can be a simple way to make someone's day, and also effect their work ethic in a positive way.

    I used to be a barista trainer at Starbucks and I was always so careful with how I would coach people. Instead of tell them they're doing something wrong, point out something they're doing right and then coach them in a positive way about the skill they may be performing wrong. I think too often people are too hard on themselves because the people coaching them are not doing it the correct way. People have to learn how to not only be self critical and still be able to perform new tasks, but also to learn how to take criticism and use the coaching points to learn.

    Oprah Winfrey said "the more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate". You only have one life to live, learn how to get in touch with your emotions and feelings. Learn how to praise yourself and use accomplishments as a way to grow and thrive.

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    Hi Kate,

    I always struggled growing up with ADD. Simple tasks were complicated and complicated tasks were mind numbing. I would either respond with tears or anger at myself for not getting the hard stuff. Now I've learned to have some patience and really take everything step by step, it not only helps me to not feel sad or angry but it allows me to celebrate the little wins. My mentors have even remarked how much I've progressed in the time that they've known me.
    That being said I have to remind myself to not put the cart before the horse, I stay very aware of my mistakes and look for ways to improve so all of my little wins can be even bigger.

    All the best.
    Steph