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    Do you want children?

    created by Allan Varghese 476 days 4 hours 45 minutes ago

    Category: World

    Do you want children?

    Do you want children? Is it a good idea these days?

    With today's economy and the uncertainty of the future due to terrorism, cyber bullying, etc. in the world... it seems harder to start a family. A lot of people in their mid to late twenties want to 'live it up', enjoy life and postpone having children, whereas in earlier times, people would have 3+ children by the time they were 30.

    So what do you think ? Do you want children ? If so what age is appropriate ?

    Or do you have children ? If so do you worry atimes about all that's happening (bullying, terrorism and so on) around the world ?

    Thanks for reading and commenting!!!

    Re: Do you want children?

    Yes of Course we need to keep the world ticking nicely , as long as we can afford to look after them we should have at least 2 per family more if you can afford them..

    Love Kids make the world go around

    Re: Do you want children?

    I definitely want to have children when I am older. Of course, that will come much later when I know I can provide for them with a stable financial income. I would say that I would plan to have children after I have finished all of the school coursework, married, and have settled down decently enough that I know we are ready to have children. I wouldn't want to provide for children if I knew I couldn't give them the best opportunity that I could for them. Besides, I think as human creatures we were meant to have children from a biological standpoint, so I might as well do it, but only when I know that we are ready and that we have the support we need to raise a child.

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    I do want to have a child, and I'm thinking of keeping it at only one, but perhaps two at the maximum (providing that I don't have twins). I would like to have a child when I am done with school, have a good paying job (with good maternity benefits as well), and can easily afford to care for a child. I'm thinking perhaps late twenties is when I'll have a child, but you never know.

    Thanks for the forum!

    Re: Do you want children?

    Hey Allan,

    As I've gotten older, I think about this more and more. And I still don't know if I want children. I am leaning towards yes, maybe 1 or 2. But who knows how I'll feel after 1. Maybe I'll want a big family!

    Despite all of the potential problems out there, there are a lot of great things happening in the world. I think it's important to give my energy and focus to the positive things. I'm not saying I don't think about the bad things, because I do. But I don't want to allow the negatives to alter how I live my life and what I want in my life.

    You can raise your children to be wonderful people who make the world a better place!

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    Hello Allan,

    Yes, I would like children. Not right away, but sometime in the future. I'd wait until at least I'm finished with school, but to each their own. I'm not even in a relationship at the moment, so it's not something at the forefront of my mind.

    I can't say I've very worried about the current happenings of the world; I'm living in a war-free, developed nation with plenty of freedoms and opportunities. Sure, there are struggles and uncertainties today, but I can think of far more difficult periods to have been born into. And even still, live moves on.



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    Hello Allan!

    It's interesting to see everyone's responses. I don't want children, but I've decided that if I ever do, I will adopt an older child.

    Maybe it's just me being negative, but I don't feel like I should have to create another human being to pour all my love into when there are already so many out there that need it and don't have it. That and I truly believe I would not be a good mother. In addition, I think we are overpopulated as it is.

    That's the way I see it. How about you, Allan? Do you want any children?

    Thanks for the forum.


    Re: Do you want children?

    Hi Allan,

    Yes, I do want children, but I want to adopt them and give them a chance to have a family, love, education, and the stability that they deserve.

    Re: Do you want children?

    In the past I have said no to the idea of having kids due to coming from a broken home. I am currently 26 and now I say I will consider once I accomplish a few more goals. I would definitely feel secure to having kids once I have my very own home with consistent income. I do not think about age. I currently am a college student with 2 years to go. But who knows what could happen, especially when you have epilepsy. It took me 4 years to complete my associates due to changing majors 3 times and eventually getting diagnosed. So it might take me a while till I have kids. If I end up popping one out after my 30s, that is no issue to me. It's not a race to me. I am aware their could be more difficulties in having children in your later years, if so were to happen then I would consider adoption. Thank you for the opportunity of speaking my mind.

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    Thanks every body for all your comments. Its really great reading through it all.

    This question came to my mind when I was playing with my two little boys. The question was a sort of self-reflective one. I totally understand when you all mentioned about having children when you are at a certain age and time in life where you have enough to provide for them. Even though I have the hope that my wife and I will be able to provide for our boys, we atimes question whether we had them at the right time. However we consider our boys as precious and blessing. Therefore we will do whatever we can to give them a great childhood and life forward.

    I also appreciate some of your decision on adopting children. Its wonderful. I have a friend who is going through the process of adopting a child.

    Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

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    I love this thread! I would say I definitely want children, I have since I was a little girl and started babysitting. I agree with many of you that say you want to make sure you can afford to provide and give them a happy childhood. Allan, I think your insight about all of the issues in the world is a very important thought when considering having children. Being a parent can be very hard and the last thing you want your child to have to go through and ask you about would be topics like violence, terrorism and bullying.

    For me personally, I want to have children when I finish school and start my career. Once in a spot that I can take a break from work without feeling that I will get let go due to maternity time off (this has become an issue in some demanding professions). My ideal age would be around 26 most likely, but of course that can change depending on life.

    Thanks for listening :)