do you think gay or lesbian is mentally sickness/ill? I heard my sister told me that in her work place, there was a guy who were married but then he is tired of women so he start to like men. IS it mentally or is it because US-woman make men become like that? I would like to go into their mind and wants to know what they think and how they feel. I don't hate them, i was just wondering...how can you like the same type? For a girl, what's good of liking in another girl? for sexual purposes, what makes you feel good? I'm not trying to be mean or dirty, just want to learn more and understand more.thanks

I think people just do what they want and sometimes people are born that way but now a days I think its more about attention...

I have a friend how makes a good argument that everyone is bisexual and that we are just taught to be hetero by society. She had valaid reasoning and very good points, however it was a very long time ago that i discussed this with her and i do not remember her points. If anyone call help, thanks, if you really want to know her points let me know and i will contact her.

haha This may sound weird, but I assure you, I'm not a lesbian. I love boys.

If I were to choose to be a lesbian, I would do it, because girls would know JUST how to, sexually, do things right. haha You know what I mean?

For example: my boyfriend was my first everything and I was his. So when we "got intimate" it was all trial and error at first. It's so new and different. Exploring, familiarizing, learning. haha BUT if I were to be a lesbian, it'd all be familiar! It'd be perfection. There'd be no learning!

But! I love my boyfriend :)






haha it's ok. I thought my post was odd, too.

Part 1

I don't know if bi-sexuality is mental illness or not. However, I can give you what I've learned from others pertaining to the concept of bi-sexuality.
First, my knowledge of homosexuality comes from a friend of my mothers who explained to me how he became aware of his sexual preference. When he started to go through puberty he was attracted to the other boys in the locker room. I related to this when I started to become physically attracted to the girls in school when I was 11 or 12 years old. He did not think of this consciously it just happened to be that way. With this awareness he was very secure in his sexuality and understood the boundaries surrounding other peoples preferences.
I also understand that sexuality is not fully an either or thing. It lies on a scale of 1 being homosexual and 10 being heterosexual. Most people are somewhere between 2-4 or 6-9. I'm about an 8 on the scale. This simply means I'm in touch with my femine side and not physically attracted to men. If I was I'd simply say it, accept it and get over myself. I've simply never had a turn on from looking or being around guys.
I also have learned that men that have been through sexual abuse with their mothers as children will find themselves seeking out emotional comforting from males. Sometimes the man will become confused with emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. However, this does not mean that their preference is homosexual or not. It means they confuse sex with love.
Also, when a mothers symbiosis with her son is not challenged by the father to participate in the role of parenting the boy is more likely to have homosexual tendencies. However, I'm not too clear on this one. I understand this concept as, when a mothers symbiosis is overbearing on a boy the boy will be less likely to go through male rights of passage and male bonding that is so very important for males to fully develope into mature men, not John Waynes or Clint Eastwoods or any other tuff guy concepts. I think it just means the boy will have a difficult time finding his way to understand his true male identity.

Part 2

Also, I've understood that if a boy has a sexual experience with another boy before puberty and they are naturally attracted to females, will perhaps be a bi-sexual.
When men are in jail for extended periods of time they will start to seperate femenine looking males. This also is not a homosexual thing either.
The pressure in western society for a male to be heterosexual is overwhelming. A male may not realize or perhaps deny their homosexual preferences even into a middle age or later marriage with children and the whole nine yards. Men are taught that men love, marry, have sex with, and have children with women. There are no other choices to this matter, is the thinking. This creates a pressure that can cause very powerful reactions, illnesses and many other problems when a societies pressure on a person does not mix with their natural personal make up. The answer is acceptance for the person.

The information here comes from conversations I have had with men from work relations to friendships. One of my hobbies is to study and inquire about human thinking and behavior outside of textbooks. Hopefully I have not offended anyone, I do not see any of this as written in stone. I know what I hear and see, which has helped me understand things a bit more. I hope this may do the same.

Itara, I can see why your friend can say everyone is born bi-sexual. Though I have never thought about it that way until I read you post. This is what I can come up with. Humans are very sexual creatures and we have sex for pleasure not just to reproduce like animals. Therefore the pleasure can be with anyone we are attracted to not just the opposite sex. Society makes most people heterosexual by telling us it is wrong to be with someone the same sex. I say go for who ever you are attracted to no matter what society thinks. A lot of people are the way they are because of society. Trosso had some really good post on things that can influence people's choices one way or the other. I think the bottom line is it comes down to who you are attracted to, and how you let society influence your decision.


On a side note. I am leaving to go out of town tomorrow. I may not be on much for the next week. I am going to try to make some post though, because I am right outside of the top ten. I may have a chance at finishing in the top ten this month.

Oh goodness no, I do not think it is a mental illness. Sexual preference is not necessarily a disease (unless we're talking about pedophilia (sp?), which is another matter all together). Not all straight men/women are attracted to the same type of women/men. Everyone is different in their preference and I accept it as a part of who that person is.

Homosexuality is not a mental illness. There is a lot of scientific support to show that it is actually something people are born with. For example, male homosexuals have brain areas that are closer in size/shape/structure to female brains than to heterosexual male brains. There are lots more of this sort of support, including hormone levels. It is NOT how someone is raised (i.e., a boy raised by a homosexual father will not turn out gay because of his father's influence). It is also not usually a preference, but an ingrained sexual orientation. Homosexuals do not simply prefer to date their own sex over the opposite sex, they have no sexual interest in the other sex at all.

I cannot speak for bisexuals, because I think most of the time that is either experimentation or just lying about your true sexual orientation.

Either way, homosexuals deserve to be treated with the same respect and dignity given to heterosexuals. They are people too, they pay taxes and have families and partners and should not be discriminated against simply because theirs is not traditional.

I thin k that most often then not people who are "bisexual" are just making an excuse because they are ashamed of their true sexuality. I feel that any person is either gay or straight their is no in between

If it's not mentally illness, why do people chose to be that way? It's not a good thing to do so because society is to allow and is laughing at them. I thought it's mentally illness therefore i understand for them that they have no way of chosing what they want to be. But why would they"? God created us to be a man and a woman...not a man and a man. It is so rediculous...so weird together. It can't be. It's the against what God has created us for. You can't bear children and human is going to distinct. well, so for those who 'chose' to be that way...it is NOT COOL at all. my point of view. Don't get mad. I never go out there and make fun of a gay man. As the matter of fact, I have a gay friend. He is so funny.

No bi-sexuality and homo-sexuality is not an illness. I am
heterosexual and I see no problem in that. Really who cares! Just let everybody be who they are. In order to be accepted, one must also accept. Every body is different. This world is compiled with different ethnicities, religions, cultures, languages, and foods. So why not accept different sexualities. Whether people are in agreement or not different sexualities already exist. Some peple are homosexuals, others are bisexual, and heterosexuals. I say if they are not hurting themselves or others then leave them alone. What makes one person happy will not always make others happy. Everyone is entitled to their pursuit to happiness. No one has the right to judge another person. Only God can judge us!!!! So people just live your lives and let others live theirs. Whats your opinion?

Um... no! There is nothing wrong about having a change of heart. I just think doctors want to say everything is a sickness so they can have more business. You should love who you love no matter what color,size,religion, or gender! Support love not ignorance!

So, what if you don't believe in God? Then it doesn't matter if God decided men and women were meant to be, beause you don't believe in him, so you don't believe in what he decdided, which is one reason homosexuality and bisexuality is ok.

Second, it is not a mental illness. It could be triggered by something i suppose, some sort of abuse, but definitely not a mental illness. i think some people are just born that way, actually. Maybe it's just in someone's nature, ya know? But to a lot of people, it's a choice. First of all, sadly, if you can't get someone of the opposite sex, maybe you'll have more luck with one of your own gender. Also, someone of your own gender probably has all the right moves because they know what they like, like legalieinsane said. I totally believe what Itara said too, maybe in a sense we're all bisexual and society just pressures us to be heterosexual. I'll admit to being a little curious about what it's like. And i don't think being bisexual is an excuse for those who are ashamed of being gay. Seriously, a person of the same gender again is probably more understanding and knows all the right moves, a person of the opposite gender is probably a little more adventurous or fun. i think bisexuality is either the best of both worlds or indecisiveness, but definitely not shame about being gay. It's not a mental illness, just like religion is not a mental illness. It's a choice and a way of life.

I belief you can change yourself. God created man to love a woman. That is why Eve was even created for Adam to have someone to love and be with. If God wanted man to love man, he would have made it that way.

bi-sexual or being gay is not a mental illness, and is not something someone chooses to do. being gay is something that develops over time on who you are attracted too. do some people play to get attention or are confused or other things? sure. but thats not every1

I dont think its an illness i jus think its a way of life. I jus think that everyone is a little Bi cause what hasnt said oh that girl is really pretty and she has a nice body and what guy hasnt said i wish i had abs like him i wish i was that stacked maybe u dont want to go any further than that i know i only like dudes but u still look at your smae sex and sort of admire that person whos a good singer or actor and has the body of a god
u are still admiring your same sex in a way

that is one of the best posts ive seen, im glad that a girl will finally come out and say it, that they would love to be a lesbian, i have a few lesbian friends, and i think thats just awesome, great post!!!

I dunno, I don't think homosexuality is a mental disease or illness, I see it more as a preference or choice made by the person. But I do feel like society DOES make homosexuality out to some type of a disease or epidemic at times. From a young age, our culture has taught us to pursue relationships with the opposite sex, making the seach for a same-sex partner seem abnormal and sick.

Well, everyone has there own choice and feelings. I'm not lesbian or bi-sexual so i don't know the feelings. I hope everyone live happy and safe.